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Now that I have your attention, My "F" word has 11 letters. It is the word forgiveness. In my humble opinion, it is absolutely paramount in our being able to move forward and starting to enjoy life as best we can. If we are able to forgive, then we can over time dispose of the hideous anger that far too often keeps us in a state of anger and rage. Most of us here have every reason to be filled with anger and rage. But if we hold onto the anger and rage, then our perpetrators will win. We can not let them win. That was their intent in the first place, to hurt us and drag us down in the muck where they live. You see, misery loves company. They can not have my soul. My soul is not for rent or sale. I am better than they are, and so are you. Evil dwells in cold, dark places. I, for one, am not going to keep evil company. Let evil dwell in the isolation and degradation it so richly deserves. For they chose evil, I did not. Far be it for me to impose my goodness on them. Let evil enjoy it's environment that it chose of it's own free will.
So what is the picture that we have when we think of forgiveness. How about walking up to our perpetrator and giving them a big hug and kiss. We tell them we are sorry for thinking what we thought of them. We bring flowers and offer to take them out to dinner. We take them to dinner at a fancy restaurant for a 4 course meal and adult beverages. We leave dinner and take them out to a play at the local theater. We take them home and go in for some more cocktails and wonderful conversation. Now I know this is pretty close to what most people think of when they think about forgiveness. Not CRC!!!!
THREAD DISCLAIMER!!!......Before I go any further, I will make mention to my faith and spiritual beliefs. These beliefs are mine and they are not for sale. I am not selling them or attempting to persuade anyone to see things my way.
I know one thing that is inarguable. I have absolutely no power or control over what another human being does. We have the gift of free will. This may not apply to many communist and third world countries, but it does in the U.S.A. So I believe that I have absolutely no control over what someone repents or turns away from. I have absolutely no control over how someone seeks forgiveness or doesn't for their transgressions. I only have control over what I do and how I forgive.
So my version of forgiveness is simple. I gather up all of the filth and degradation that the perpetrator in question laid on me and made me carry around from the time they laid the filth on me to the present. I take my time with my Psychiatrist and therapist gathering and processing all of the filth that this individual or individuals hung around my neck to carry around every day in mortal pain. And when I have it all processed and gathered up, I meet with the perpetrator. I greet the perpetrator, and tell them, " Here is all of the filth and crud that you laid on me to carry around every day of my life. I am tired of carrying around what is rightfully yours. So here are the two 50 LB bags, one on each side of your neck, that belong to you. I hope you enjoy carrying around all of this crud as much as I did."
What was in the bags was all of the anger that I have been carrying around from the time the perpetrator laid it on me. Once I put it around the neck of the perpetrator, I am now free of all of the hideous anger. It crops every now and then when we are triggered. But now, the filthy perps own what is rightfully theirs. It is hard to let go of the anger because we can hide behind it. But it is the only way we will be able to free ourselves of the hideous anger. Give it to it's rightful owner. They made it, they own it. Blessings to all!!!
So what is the picture that we have when we think of forgiveness. How about walking up to our perpetrator and giving them a big hug and kiss. We tell them we are sorry for thinking what we thought of them. We bring flowers and offer to take them out to dinner. We take them to dinner at a fancy restaurant for a 4 course meal and adult beverages. We leave dinner and take them out to a play at the local theater. We take them home and go in for some more cocktails and wonderful conversation. Now I know this is pretty close to what most people think of when they think about forgiveness. Not CRC!!!!
THREAD DISCLAIMER!!!......Before I go any further, I will make mention to my faith and spiritual beliefs. These beliefs are mine and they are not for sale. I am not selling them or attempting to persuade anyone to see things my way.
I know one thing that is inarguable. I have absolutely no power or control over what another human being does. We have the gift of free will. This may not apply to many communist and third world countries, but it does in the U.S.A. So I believe that I have absolutely no control over what someone repents or turns away from. I have absolutely no control over how someone seeks forgiveness or doesn't for their transgressions. I only have control over what I do and how I forgive.
So my version of forgiveness is simple. I gather up all of the filth and degradation that the perpetrator in question laid on me and made me carry around from the time they laid the filth on me to the present. I take my time with my Psychiatrist and therapist gathering and processing all of the filth that this individual or individuals hung around my neck to carry around every day in mortal pain. And when I have it all processed and gathered up, I meet with the perpetrator. I greet the perpetrator, and tell them, " Here is all of the filth and crud that you laid on me to carry around every day of my life. I am tired of carrying around what is rightfully yours. So here are the two 50 LB bags, one on each side of your neck, that belong to you. I hope you enjoy carrying around all of this crud as much as I did."
What was in the bags was all of the anger that I have been carrying around from the time the perpetrator laid it on me. Once I put it around the neck of the perpetrator, I am now free of all of the hideous anger. It crops every now and then when we are triggered. But now, the filthy perps own what is rightfully theirs. It is hard to let go of the anger because we can hide behind it. But it is the only way we will be able to free ourselves of the hideous anger. Give it to it's rightful owner. They made it, they own it. Blessings to all!!!
