Anger:how To Express It

[trying2movefwd]

I am very angry, a new emotion for me. What have you done to get the emotion out in a healthy manner? Cause i can feel it building up. This neighborhood alone has many stressors and triggers..and I am starting to get angry with my x

 

[Ka-9]

Myself- I have to work out every morning...weights, and the heavy bag, to try and exhaust my anger or energy. I need the aggressive workout- running/cardio doesn't work for me. And it has to be morning.

If I feel angry during day-I ride my horse, he's got loads of personality- so by end of ride I'll be laughing guaranteed...every time. Horses are walking therapy.

 

[trying2movefwd]

I can't afford a horse and live in a city.

 

[Ka-9]

I can't afford a horse and live in a city.

Irish wolfhound with a small saddle?

 

[Ink]

I also try to work out with weights. It feels good to see your strength increase and your body change. And it takes so much energy and concentration to do it properly--training yourself to exert on the exhale. Part of the reason I've been having a hard time lately is because I am injured and cannot lift. Riding my horses works as well, by it depends on the day. Sometimes the barn where I keep my horses is overcrowded or overly loud or I am roped into helping with a trail and then I just feel responsible and worse.

When nothing else works, I try to multitask doing enjoyable things or things I know I can accomplish. There's not much room for anger if my whole mind is occupied. For example, I will clean the house and listen to an audiobook or color while watching tv. In these ways, I am physically moving, but my mind is also consumed with a story. Generally the more physical the task, the easier it is to burn off the anger. And finishing anything brings that sense of purpose which also helps me feel better.

 

[Ka-9]

I also try to work out with weights. It feels good to see your strength increase and your body change. And...

Very cool you ride as well Ink.

I know in therapy, they often talk about striking pillows with forceful exhaled breaths, or striking something- inane, and inanimate preferred- I really do think it helps, it's a little adrenaline burn off. I know I have used the body mindfullness stuff with breathing technique in a jam- def'n takes a notch or 2 off, just forces me to re-focus...and seems to help long term control.

 

[Joan]

anything to exert that energy.....scribbling on paper-covering every white spot, tearing up paper or fabric, burning something, exercise....still a work in process for me! trying to figure it out myself.

 

[mamachick]

I think the work out advice is wonderful. Also art or crafts which requires focus and attention, and brings out your creativity.
I can't afford a horse and I live in town too, but I wish! That sounds wonderful.

I also ask myself what other emotions are causing the anger. It helps to identify what the underlying emotion is for me, then address it with myself. There are times that I find I need to make changes, other times it is out of my control and I have to decide not to sweat the small stuff.

 

[UniqueSunflower]

I am very angry, a new emotion for me. What have you done to get the emotion out in a healthy ma...

Even though it's an unpleasant emotion, it's good you are feeling. A couple of things I've tried are throwing ice cubes at a wood board outside. The 2nd being throwing raw eggs against something that can get messy (I drove out to an area w/o traffic). The sound and visual is cathartic & not hurting anything.

 

[BlueOrange]

What do you do with the mad that you feel?

 

[Enaila]

@UniqueSunflower I love your ideas. Ice would clean itself up outside and not leave sharp pieces.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I dont know if im the best one to answer this as anger & rage is the main emotion I can feel, most times the only emotion, and most of the ways I express it isnt good; but, what I did to shed it which gave me access to the other emotions, was to talk about it, on here. I spoke about things that i was so angry at myself for, "letters" to those that hurt me, poems etc. Eventually i was able to shed enough that it got me access to the other enotions under it.

I dont know if this helps but today i talk on here about it which helps the most or if i cant then i distract by things like tv, phone games, house work etc.