Sexual Assault "the World Desperatel Needs Angry Females"

[Deleted member 24866]

I know they say angry women are the worlds most terrifying thing, lol.. so stupid ha ha. I have to call it anger.. it is not like I am ready to throw a punch or something at someone- unless physically provoked and then ..I am willing to defend till death. It is where I am at. I am my protector after many physical assalts. I am my mechanic, I am my carpenter.. I can do the stuff they do. So what I am smaller . I have a right to be angry. I am glad there are some good guys out there but I have had so many misuse friendship for ulterior motives I hardly can trust anyone anymore. So many stalkers I have to pay for a security system or physical tracking system.. it costs way more to be a single female. I am tired of my physical impression that men see a smile and small stature and like I said easy target pops into there head. I thought at a time men who aged out grew stupidity.. man was I wrong. Men are there own worst enemy and by allowing the assholes their free speech they are hurting themselves.. but they have no fear. So many females are so desperate for any man.. I have learned to be happy alone. Mostly at least but yeah lonliness is a thing. Ce la vie. Thanks for your imput guys. I know I am not alone with the frustrations and it is a brave woman to really be honest about it. So many desperate for men, And a woman who stands up for herself is looked at like trouble. God bless you all. Wish more men would stand up to the stupid men,.

 

[Deleted member 24866]

Yeh so after defending myself against the stalker the friend a male who told me he said that mentions he is afraid now the guy will be angry.. and I should shut up because he has guns.. and I am the crazy one in society.. yeh right. Its like shut up eat crap or potentially die. This is why some men are crap.

 

[Deleted member 24866]

I wonder if men are afraid of these men also... maybe that's the problem why they allow it to happen. Cowards everywhere.. I will die if I must defending what is right.

 

[joeylittle]

I have a right to be angry.

Absolutely.

There are groups, I think, that are geared towards regaining one's power through anger - the anger is usually funneled through protest. 'Take Back The Night' is one that comes to mind.

And there's certainly nothing wrong with writing about it, here. I often have a lot of those same feelings.

 

[Deleted member 24866]

I think the term indignation.. may be interchangeable. Is that more socially acceptable?

 

[joeylittle]

Is that more socially acceptable?

Apples and oranges, to me. Anger transforms into determination to take action. Taking action, ideally, is not about venting anger (that would be beating people up of breaking shit), but about finding a form of expression that gives you the power to create change.

The young woman who carried her mattress on her back, as a statement about an alleged rape (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mattress_Performance_(Carry_That_Weight)) took her anger and turned it into a big ol' piece of performance art.

I think anger becomes self-destructive if it's just allowed to eat at your insides, and never transforms into determination/passion/action.

 

[Justmehere]

It's wonderful you are voicing these thoughts and reaching out for support. I agree that change is needed on a cultural level to stop sex Alavert and sex trafficking.

A couple of questions:

Is it all men or specific men?

If you were a man, and you replaced "men know other men are crap also" with "women know other women are crap also" - many on this forum would cry foul.

Why is it any different because of gender?

I think blaming all men for the horrific crimes and enabling behaviors of a few/some of them dilutes the responsibility that the perpetrators and their enablers have.

I also think that the world needing more angry women as the solution sort of nullifies just how much these perps are enabled by all of society and how much people of all genders gave stole to play in ending sex slavery.

Anger in and of itself isn't a bad thing. It can fuel change, powerful change, when directed appropriately. But I think we need much make than just angry women. We need women and men of courage willing to speak up, reach out, and take a stand.

There are supports groups in most areas of the US for this. RAINN is a resource to get connected with one. Perhaps you could start one as well!

Love the passion!

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

It is definitely very difficult being a rape victim in a society of rape couture. It's also difficult being a female in a patriarchal society put those both together and it's totally bullshit. I get mad as hell sometimes about it and feel like I can't be angry for fear of being labelled a man hating feminazi.

I also feel I'm always careful not to hurt men's feeling even after everything I think I probably protect them more than I do myself. And that makes me feel so sad.

 

[Deleted member 24866]

Just me here

I did say not all men- and I also acknowledged some women are crap also. off to work- more later thavks.

 

[Sideways]

@joeylittle 's comments above - yes yes yes!

'Anger' is a tricky emotion, because it can be incredibly destructive and really cripple a person's ability to see things rationally. At times.

At other times, anger can be a powerful motivator. And there's plenty to be angry about. One day, I'd like to be able to feel angry about what happened to me, because it's something worth being angry about, and I'm worth being angry for. So long as I use the passion from that anger in a way that serves me rather than destroys me.

And I think I'd go so far as to say that yes, the world could definitely afford to be angrier about sex crimes. Men and women alike should be angry about sex crimes. And it would be really awesome if we could not just get angry about it, but use that anger to really start doing something about it.

But personally, I do try and keep my language in this area fairly gender-neutral. Because it's not just women who are victims, and it's not just men who are perps. But also because I think it's important that sex crimes doesn't become a feminist bastion - men should angry about this stuff as well. And a lot of them are, because it's happening to their wives, their sisters, their daughters.

Not to mention that men make up about 50% of the world's population and, by and large, they are not all sex predators. There's quite a few of them that make a pretty remarkable contribution to humanity! And having that extra 50% on our side is definitely going to help the cause!!

 

[Deleted member 24866]

I see and acknowledge your point. I guess what I am (personally) struggling with in general is the daily harassment and misogynistic attitudes that men laugh off. The "Madmen" mentality and what I classify as Alpha personalities that people seem to afraid to confront. The unequal yoke of unequal pay for equal work and mens apathy to it. And there are many men who (being female perhaps it goes both ways and honestly I guess I can say I have seen it that is women playing the same: Milk the cow attitude. Looking back in fairness - I have to acknowledge for instance in the recent triggering even where my name has been slandered by a stalker and the defamation of character that goes with it a few things..

1) the man who was told the repulsive lie - was equally scared of this nutcase with guns and said nothing even though he knew it was a lie (where as I did once learning of the lie get in his face.. it is a repulsive thought

2) I also have to acknowledge my ignorance that men though feigning friendship (again in my personal perspective) perhaps are not capable of friendship[. And also my ignorance that an older man has "outgrown" certain behaviors..when in fact these behaviors are maybe worse - but that's hard to say when harassment is a daily encounter..

Here Men you can not claim equal status to know what its like to walk around in a cloud of harassment daily- of being taken as Less than.. the butt of jokes, and perversion Can you ?

Most offenders of crimes against women, children including male and female are ...men.
OK- I have been physically abused by a woman at a point also, but it does not compare to men.

Most women who remain uninvolved simply remain aloof.
I wonder now about the self named, "Alpha" personality that many seem to possess. I have felt financially exploited repeatedly be men as well.

Granted a person can never say never- but if you have further insight I value all your opinion. I agree together men and women SHOULD stand against this, but it is not the whole picture in a rape culture. Men are not judged solely on their bodies- like when is the last time you heard a man say he was not taken seriously or heard because people were staring at his crotch.. ?

I feel women are not allowed to be intune to anger which is a very wonderful force to motivate and focus energy. Instead as previously said they are labeled crazy- PMS-ing.. it is not heard.

The harassment laws do not function correctly we need better stalking laws, and also those rape back logs are a big deal to me. Again primary offenders are male.

I am NOT trying to blame all men, but I do not see any standing up to it either.

 

[Deleted member 24866]

also online advocacy has been a great channel - but trying to step out thus far I have found I am really triggered. I tried to sit through a task force meeting and broke down in tears. All of these smiling people and I am like thinking "what the hell are they so happy about? - they do not "get it"