Going To Therapy When You Can't Get Dressed?

[GMW]

I'm really not in a good place right now.

My therapist brought up my mum last week and all this week I've been awful. I have BPD too so abandonment and my mum go hand in hand and I feel like clinging to my therapist.

I haven't been able to get dressed for the last 3 days and have no energy to articulate what's wrong or talk. I feel numb and achy. Disassociation?

My therapy is on Friday, I need to give her as much notice as possible to cancel. Should I cancel?

She doesn't allow me to contact her outside our appointments unless it's to rearrange/cancel/confirm an appointment so I can't call her up. Plus I have major issues with phones anyway so I'd probably feel worse if she suggested a phone consultation.

 

[Gs172003]

I'm really not in a good place right now.

My therapist brought up my mum last week and all this week I've...

You can't contact her outside appointments?? You need a new therapist

 

[GMW]

You can't contact her outside appointments?? You need a new therapist

Standard practice in the UK

 

[Justmehere]

This seems like exactly the right time to not cancel. Symptoms like what you deceive are exactly why going is a good idea. I suggest telling her the same things you have posted here - even if you have to write it down and hand it to her.

:hug: I hope you find some relief from this soon. It seems like possible depression. That can make someone ache all over and struggle to function in the way you describe - with a flatness of feelings and affect. Could also be dissociation too.

Best to do whatever you can to go to the seasion even if all you do is go.

 

[Gs172003]

Standard practice in the UK

Lord I can email and text mine. She can choose whether to respond or not

 

[GMW]

missy - It works best for me this way - with my BPD I'd cling to her and be constantly texting and emailing if I could. Which isn't really very fair on her. This way I know I'm treating her fairly and therefore I feel less at risk she'll get fed up and abandon me. I work best with someone with clear boundaries because I don't have any at all!

Justmehere - yes it's part and parcel of BPD. Usually I'm one day up, one day down. But at the moment my mummy issues are being a nightmare so I'm more down than up. I'm hoping that Friday will be at least up enough to enable me to get dressed and drive the 5 minutes to her house! I'm just finding it all consuming at the moment. I think we're still very much in the uncovering phase. Not quite sure when we'll get to the fixing bit!

 

[Silver.]

I agree that it's worth you going again. I think you should talk to her about some grounding techniques to help you "recover" so to speak for when therapy sessions do get rough. Ask that she spend some time at the end of the sessions helping to ground you. Also if she hasn't talk about mindfulness and how you can practice it.
I often times have been tempted to just call in and not go, but those were indeed the times when I needed her the most, and I was so glad I went.
You still have a few days, why don't you try some things on your own to get yourself in a better place so you can be ready for the appointment. Meditation for example. (A lot of people think they cannot do meditation because their mind wanders. But they don't realize that is okay, that you can recognize the distracting thoughts and just go right back onto counting, or whatever way you chose to meditate). There is also distraction, try finding things to keep you busy which in turn will keep your mind busy.
I do hope that you will be able to get to a place where you feel you are able to go to the appointment this week. Take Care

 

[7Cs]

I always knew when my daughter needed her therapy appt the most. Those were the times she didn't want to go.

Let T know how triggered you are.

It may be time to take a step back and work on self soothing and coping techniques rather than continue to dive further into abandonment issues.

 

[7Cs]

Meditation for example. (A lot of people think they cannot do meditation because their mind wanders. But they don't realize that is okay, that you can recognize the distracting thoughts and just go right back onto counting, or whatever way you chose to meditate).

YouTube has some great guided meditations! If your mind tends to wander when you meditate in silence give guided meditation a try.

These are some of the "stations" I use the most...

Jason Stephenson

Jody Whiteley

TheHonestGuys

Sleep Ezy Tonight

 

[StacyD]

I'm really not in a good place right now.

My therapist brought up my mum last week and all this week I've...

Hi GMW,
I was in this position not too long ago. I called and requested we talk over the phone and the doc was agreeable. This illness sucks! !!! Big deep breathes in/out

 

[Poofycat]

I haven't been able to get dressed for the last 3 days

Go to your appointment in your pajamas?

 

[GMW]

Go to your appointment in your pajamas?

LOL that made me smile! Thanks!