Sunday Blues

[SinkorSwim]

For the past two Sundays I have had the Sunday blues. I get really anxious on Sundays because I use it as my rest day. As in I sit and do nothing all day because I literally have to I am so worn out from jumping around place to place all week. I recently decided to go back to college. I am taking classes online through an area tech school and I really like the classes. The problem is now I find myself hating work. Also part of my Sunday anxiety. Having to go back to work to a place I hate and I feel stuck, but can't move around right now because I have to pay for school somehow. I tried to go shopping for a bit today and treat myself. It worked for a couple hours but then I had the whole entire day to think and now I am anxious before bed. Anyone have any tips?

 

[Holdingontohope]

What are other things that help you relax? Maybe try doing some of those. I had a friend who use to have a "worry box". If she was having trouble at night, she would write down what she was worring/stressed about on a piece of paper and put it in the box. Once she put it in the box, the worry was suppose to "stay in the box" until the morning. In the morning she could open the box, read what she wrote the night before, and work on addressing it if it was still an issue. She said she would often find that things that were overwhelming the night before were not as overwhelming the next morning.

I don'the know if something like that would be helpful for you, but thought I would mention it. It isn'the something that would work well for me on my bad days. It would be really hard to "keep it in the box" for me. I find when I get to a certain level of anxiety/stress/overwhelmed feeling the thing that helps me most is distraction. I do something that keeps my mind occupied with something else until it calms down enough I can get on with whatever I need to do. Puzzle or logic games, funny movies, a good book, or researching a topic I find interesting are things that help distract me.

 

[Friday]

I shut down for years on Saturdays, in preparation for Mondays. Sundays I was fine, all my preparatory anxiety hit me the day before. :wtf: I never managed to budge IT, but I did get better at bleeding stress in advance (so it didn't hit me so hard), making plans (that I could do no matter how spun up I was, so it wasn't guilt laid on top of anxiety for a "wasted day"), grounding it out faster as this came up throughout the day / catching temper tantrums before they started / etc. (So I wasted less time all spun up).

I tried a lot of stuff to budge it, but no matter how super-aware I kept myself, nor how dazed I made myself ... *Light Bulb!* ... every single durn Saturday it was like whole new information dropped into my brain! OMG! Monday I have to-! :facepalm: Drove me a bit nuts. Yes yes yes. I knoooooow I'm giving the Kiddo back to his dad Monday! Sheesh!

(And enter my brains attempt to run with all the things I hated, and all my fears, and all my self loathing, and.... Nope! Ground. Breathe. Distract. Keep moving. Ground. Breathe. Distract. Keep moving. But- Nope! We are not going to follow that rabbit hole down the same boring trail of everything wrong! We are going to see the same old boring trail, and ignore it. Ground. Breathe. Distract. Keep moving. Feeding the right wolf, dammit.)

Hopefully you'll manage something better than the ongoing Stalemate I had running with my preparatory Saturday anxiety. But even the stalemate gave me a helluva lot of options I didn't have, when my anxiety was running around unchallenged, ungrounded, and fed into :)

 

[desiderata310]

Haven't quite figured this out but sometimes I manage to keep that day busy enough doing things I like that most of the day isn't too terrible. I do spend a small part of the day trying to prep for Monday (packing bags, lunch, laying out clothes, planning out dinner, etc.) . I try. To find something to make Monday's suck a little less: throw in a happy cup of coffee or... I don't know... An extra stop at the park on The way to or from work... Anything that I could look forward to.

Yes, I'm sitting here right now freaking out because I had to work and work much longer today than I expected and I missed my run and because I was having a freak out this morning I missed my chance to surf.

I don't have a good answer. Just, you're not alone.

 

[Enaila]

I have lots of anxiety on Sundays as well knowing I have to go back to a work environment which is not the most supportive. I decided today I was not going to do work this weekend and if need be, will reschedule tomorrow's meeting. I am feeling so taken advantage of. This causes me Sunday blues.

 

[Enaila]

I shut down for years on Saturdays, in preparation for Mondays. Sundays I was fine, all my preparatory a...

Just reading your threads @Friday cheers me up as you have such a way of stating things. Thank you for being so honest and open. I'm sorry you have to go through such times....I know how stressful shared custody can be.

 

[Gs172003]

I wish I could do rest days but I can't. Flat out.

 

[Enaila]

My mind never rests either. I so understand.

 

[SinkorSwim]

Thank you everyone for your kind words and some new ideas. I saw my therapist again today, she keeps telling me to journal. I find when I journal though I often tend to dwell on all my thoughts and spend the next four hours worrying about things. She then told me to make bullet points and don't go in depth. I don't see how that will work as I am still thinking about all the thoughts. She then told me to every hour think of something positive about my situation. I'm going a bit beyond and decided to do all my house cleaning on fridays now instead of sundays. I think I get to sunday and think oh joy day of cleaning and then back to work.