Pick Your Own?

[rosey]

If you could change your name what would you pick for yourself?

Three years ago i changed my name. The police advised me too and i really embraced the idea. Not only would it make it harder for my abuser (who i reported, was arrested but got off thanks to my family lies) but it also made me realise i didnt want anything my parents had given me name included.

It changed my life. I love my new name.

So if you did the same what would you call yourself?

 

[Nessa7]

I have a hard time feeling like my last name belongs to me. I've changed the way that I pronounce it. Sometimes I think I would like a last name that is connected to my mother's side of the family. I am closer to them, and I think I would have more of a sense of ownership over it.

 

[rosey]

I have a hard time feeling like my last name belongs to me. I've changed the way that I pronounce it....

Changing it is easy. It has changed me. My family know the old me and it gives me si much comfort that they dont know me now. Has helped me put things in the past a bit more.

 

[EveHarrington]

I think people aren't going to reply as if they do change their name legally, they've essentially disclosed personal info about themselves.

I've thought of changing my name and there's no way I'd ever share online what I want it to be.

 

[Freedomfighter]

If you could change your name what would you pick for yourself?

Three years ago i changed my name. The p...

Ohhhh, that would be fun. I would do some research as to what describes me the best. The name would have to include something that signifies peace, perhaps the most important aspect that I strive for in life.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

If you could change your name what would you pick for yourself?

Three years ago i changed my name. The p...

This is so odd because it is so me. I hate my name and when people say I cringe. It is a nice name, nothing weird about it. It's like Karen (it is not Karen, just an example). So I started to tell people another name, just as benign. I will say "Maria" . So half the people in my life think I am Karen and half maria. Thank god they are rarely in the same room! Hahaha. I would officially but too much is hinged to my old name, things like the disability, etc. But I hate it and that makes me SAD because I love my family and my ancestors who had the same name and it is just the abuser that messed it up. My story got onto news etc, so people just look me up and I hate that!!!!!

 

[katz]

This is so odd because it is so me. I hate my name and when people say I cringe. It is a nice name...

I"ve never been please with mine either. I can remember hating being in school and hearing the teacher call out each students name. They would be calling all the other names using just a first name. Then come to me and say both my first and last name. Maybe because it was so easy to pronounce. So they just did it. I just know that I was relieved when I got married. Unfortunetly, my new name was so odd that no one could pronounce it! LOL

The last name that I have now is much better. Commen. Easy to spell or pronounce. I'm just glad that it is not the family name that I grew up with.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I have been thinking about changing my name for the past twenty years, but I still can't think what I'd like it to be. Something Italian, but also something that is not rare, because there's only a handful of people in the world with the same first name and surname as me. I hate that about it because it makes me easy to find :(

 

[rosey]

I have been thinking about changing my name for the past twenty years, but I still can't think what I'd lik...

It is easy to do the legal side but picking is the hard bit. My 8year old picked mine in the end. Nice that she was so on board with it. My husband still refuses to use my new name think this is power trip but oh well.