Therapist Leaving - Gutted

[Deleted member 34328]

@Alibongo I think it's more than grieving the loss of your therapist. You opened yourself up. Allowed yourself to become vulnerable to this person. Gave them permission to hear and feel your pain.

A therapist is a vital part of healing. Feeling gutted seems pretty accurate. You did spill out a lot of your inner self.

Meeting someone new will take a lot of courage. Yes, definitely take as much time as you need to process this transition.

 

[Missycat]

Oh , sorry that your T is leaving , especially after you have built trust and a good therapeutic relationship. If you have been able to open up hopefully you can build just as strong a relationship with your new T.
I hope it all works out for you.
:hug:

 

[Alibongo]

Thanks guys. I'm hoping it'll go ok with the new person X

 

[Deleted member 34328]

Hope so too @Alibongo

 

[Mice]

Don't give up @Alibongo ; wishing you all the best next week.

If it can help, it was hard for me on Monday, especially seeing my ex T's office occupied by someone new. But the new therapist was very nice and understanding and we agreed she will help me talk about what happened by asking questions, but won't do so until I tell her I am ready for her to ask. I see these first sessions as getting to know each other and in fact, it kind of feels good in a certain way to not talk about the deep stuff for a little while

 

[Alibongo]

Don't give up @Alibongo ; wishing you all the best next week.

If it can help, it was h...

Thank you mice. I'm really glad you had a good experience with your new T it's good to hear! :)

 

[Alibongo]

So went for a reassessment today. Turns out they are going to discharge me as I've had 22 sessions and that should be enough. Still to go and see the psychiatrist tho but she wants me to see how I do on my own with no therapy for 6 months and to be re-referred if I have any problems. Bit upset about it tbh but I think I had unrealistic expectations about the results of therapy-thought it would return me to normal. It kinda feels like they have given up on me and that this is as good as it's going to get. Suppose if there's nothing else they can do then it's fair enough

 

[Deleted member 34328]

oyyyy! That's a bit of a blow! I wouldn't have seen that coming. Not a good surprise either. At least they're going see you again in 6 months. Maybe they see it as a trial period. Doesn't mean therapy is no longer an option. An opportunity to draw from inner strength and practice what you've learned. You might be surprised at how you feel.

 

[Alibongo]

oyyyy! That's a bit of a blow! I wouldn't have seen that coming. Not a good surprise either. At lea...

If I need to be seen again I've to go to my GP to be re-referred. I have my end meeting with my original T on Monday-said she would get her to do a crisis plan with me. Think I'd have been ok with being discharged if I was in a good place. She said she wasn't going to pathologise it as she says it's a normal response to trauma! It's been nearly 18 months now

 

[Alibongo]

I don't even think I've learned much-just breathing exercise which I can't focus on when I'm freaking out. But maybe that's just the mood I'm in tonight

 

[Deleted member 34328]

This really sucks! Even if I was in a good place, this would likely change that in a hurry. I've always understood that for the most part, therapist and client work together to end the relationship. It's also mutually understood. Maybe that's just here or with certain therapists...don't know.

Doesn't change anything though. It still sucks (for lack of a better word)

I guess you're going to need time just to process this. I'm curious as to what her crisis plan is.

Don't plan on anything today...unless it's something just for you. Sometimes I find just distraction can help.

Keep posting.

 

[Alibongo]

This really sucks! Even if I was in a good place, this would likely change that in a hurry. I've alwa...

Thank you. I think there is supposed to be an arranged ending but with her getting a new job that's not going to happen :( she even told me I wasn't ready to be discharged and that she should have pushed me harder with the exposure stuff. Oh well will send what she says on Monday. Thanks again x