Will You Be Alone Christmas Or... ?

[mamachick]

I volunteer at a homeless place that just serves meals on weekends and holidays. I planned to go on Thanksgiving but dinner was late and company here till late. I may go for couple hours on Christmas if I can. I think Friday has a great idea. If you don't prefer nursing homes, maybe something else similar.

 

[Changing4Best]

Over the years I've spent a few Christmases away from home, a few when I was in the Navy, or working off...

So sorry about your wife. And her family! But I am glad you have a great place to go to this year. Enjoy!

 

[ladee]

I will be alone. But not lonely. I choose to be alone. I will get invitations but say thank you anyway.
I will relish the quite and be very satisfied.

 

[Ronin]

I don't own a car though and my place is very small, so I cannot invite anyone over. No place to seat them for a meal!

No such thing, the floors can host a village even in very small places.

& If ten people can fit in a car and have all the fun in the world, a very small apartment can host two people just fine. :sneaky:

 

[MisterCatLady]

I work every Christmas and that is a fantastic distraction from the sinking feeling of loneliness. Could you maybe volunteer somewhere?

 

[Changing4Best]

Ideally, what I am looking for is an invitation OUT somewhere. That is what would make me HAPPY. The next best things would be to get a phone call at least, which I have no proof will happen, but I can call others, but again, there is no way of knowing if they will be available to talk or if they will be busy with family and or friends.

But hey, this was a question to all of you: am I alone in this?? What are all of you planning for the holidays?

 

[Freedomfighter]

I will be alone. But not lonely. I choose to be alone. I will get invitations but say thank you anyway....

Same here, christmas has not much meaning to me anyways. When I see the fools in the stores who pretend they know what this holiday is all about I get sick to my stomach.

There is no way in hell any of those fools would even get close to my residence.

There is so much more peace now in my life, with me choosing when and where I want to go. I used to spend plenty of holidays with family, enough to last me for a life time. Being at home cozy, that makes me happy.

Needless to say every single family that I separated from has in the past years gotten much worse. Those family problems resulted in family members who are out for money, who abuse their own kids, even with a recent suicide of a nephew I really cared about..... and so on.


I am not missing anything, and will be very happy just enjoying the day, without having to go anywhere.

 

[Changing4Best]

Same here, christmas has not much meaning to me anyways. When I see the fools in the stores who...

I am so sorry about your nephew. I'm glad you can enjoy the day at peace at home alone. Good for you! And I don't mean that sarcastically either, (I know it could have been taken that way, but I wanted to be sure that it wasn't).

 

[DharmaGirl]

I spend it with my son and ex-husband. I invite people over, but they all have previous engagements. We will watch Christmas movies and have fondue. There is almost no money for presents, so I have this dollar store joke present thing going on. When the time comes for my son to have other plans. I will watch Christmas movies and if I'm physically able, will volunteer. It can be a lonely time, I know.

 

[illusionist]

We are having someone stay over for Christmas. No room for a table......and an airbed squeezed into our sitting room for them to sleep...oh! Must remember to buy another cushion to pass for their table..it's not the surroundings that makes Christmas to me......it's the togetherness, the company.

 

[leelee]

Im sorry you are going to be alone. when I was alone I would make a meal and invite people who had no place to go. But you know I like my alone time I can do my crafts, play games or play and be silly with my little dogs. Do you have a pet? Pets are good to have, a true friend who is always there, holiday or not. Pets are there when we dont want to get out of bed, sick, or happy and they make good listeners. They dont care what you look like or how bad your morning breath smells. Maybe you should consider on adopting you a new friend.......just a thought.

 

[Changing4Best]

@leelee Yes, I have a guinea pig! His name is angel and he is feisty. He gives me "bite kisses" as my husband used to call them when our dogs did that to him. Angel does not break my skin or hurt me with his bite kisses, but they do make me kind of nervous. None the less, the last 2 times I held him, he did not do this, so maybe he is outgrowing it.

I love the cheerful noises he makes. Kind of a squeeking noise, I guess, but very upbeat musically. He likes Kale, Cucumbers and tomatoes mostly, and he is allowed a small serving of fruit every few days. However, since I eat fruit every day, I give him too much of it, I am guilty! It is said that if I give him too much fruit, he could get diabetes, so I really do have to be careful about this. So I just give him a very small piece of the fruits I eat maybe once a day or so. He likes raisins too, but I only gave him one so far, they are pretty sweet!

I eat mostly cold foods. I am not much of a cook. I love cottage cheese, turkey lunch meat, and all the veggies he loves. I had cooked kale for the first time today at church and it was good. I have to try cooking some of his kale for me. It is said to be high in Vitamin C, which both he and I need. My immune system is weak due to my having Lyme Disease, so I drink a tea that has Vitamin C in it too.

Anyway, yes, a pet is a very nice companion, if one can afford one. I cannot afford vet bills, so my pet is one that does not need a vet. We had them when we were kids, so he brings back happy memories too.