Relationship Untreated Ptsd

[caligirl03]

Is it possible to maintain a relationship with someone with untreated PTSD if they don't feel ready to accept and face their diagnosis? This has been their case since they were first diagnosed around 8 years ago. Thoughts on this?

 

[Sweetpea76]

It's hard to say... maybe yes, maybe no. It's going to be rough if they're very symptomatic and unwilling to work on that.

 

[Friday]

My PTSD has never been treated professionally. Wasn't willing to take the Dx seriously until about 2 and a half years ago. I have friendships spanning 20+ years. They survived my first bout of seriously f*cked up wild years. Shall see if they survive this round. Romantic relationships? An 11year marriage that shouldn't have survived (it was not a good marriage), and many many many good relationships that didn't. Some ended badly. Some we parted as friends. Which says more about them, than me. So even just in my own life? Yes. No. Maybe.

 

[Freedomfighter]

Is it possible to maintain a relationship with someone with untreated PTSD if they don't feel ready...

Well, what kind of relationship is in question? A working relationship, a friendship, or a partnership? All very different, a sufferer or patient may have trouble accepting a diagnosis or is simply confused about a diagnosis or is so afraid that a diagnosis may signify a death warrant to them. All patients are different in such matters.

 

[caligirl03]

Romantic relationship

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I am with @Friday, yes, no, and maybe. All could be true. WAYYYY too many variables. How symptomatic, your issues, how well they cope, if you two can work out the fine details, etc. I mean if they get very small amounts of symptoms and you two have steller communication and understanding both ways, sure. But I would be sure your needs are being met in all ways as well.

I didn't accept my diagnosis at first either. But me untreated is like the world's worst tornado and anyone that can handle that they'd be a saint!

 

[Amack]

Tornado. Good word.
You like chaos. Go for it.
Untreated anything is usually ( I will say usually to be kind) NOT a stellar way to enter in............
good luck.

 

[Call-Me-Dream]

I've been the untreated one in this situation, and I want to say no, but everyone is different and the variables are many.

 

[TheMinsterman]

That's the worst thing I have discovered on here, there's no fixed answer and it'll depend entirely on you two as people. My SO isn't in treatment right now and it is abysmal to the point where I am seriously contemplating what to do, because love no matter how deep on its own isn't the fairytale cure it's made out to be. I love my SO deeply, have for nearly a decade, but being shut out and pushed away and blamed for everything is testing what remaining patience I have left.

They may want to process this on their own and for some that will work, but if their lack of effective treatment causes relationship issues I'd be worried, like I am currently.