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Marriage Vs. Meds

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You haven't wasted my time. I just have a hard time wrapping my head around why someone would stay with someone that clearly is abusive and shows no need to change HIS behavior, and continues to undermine yours. Yet you stay?!? ? ?!?
 
@Chaos I'm really sad to hear that you would find that getting cleaning jobs so "demoralizing"..... I would say the opposite would happen. You would become financially independent from your husband, possibly allowing you to leave him and his controlling abusive ways. It would also allow you to have more self esteem. It would allow you to pay your own bills, get an apartment and finally be able to take you medication....

Demoralizing????? NO! It's what I do for a living. I self support myself, I pay my bills on time, I live alone, take no psych drugs and have peace of mind and peace within the walls where I live. No one controls me, no one tells me what to do, how to do it, when and where I can or can not go, and no one tells me who I can associate with. And, if I wanted to go on psych drugs, I could do this without having to hid them......
 
I have been smoking pot for years
Yes, but your husband seems to believe you have a drug problem - beyond just the psychogenic meds - , you took all his pot when you left (because he doesn't share it?), and one of the reasons you gave for not being able to leave him was
I also can't get any pot on my own.
So, it sounds like it's an active part of the issue. It's definitely a topic, anyway.

And it's a psychogenic itself. I'm not anti-marijuana in any way, but if you are having mood issues and focus issues, you need to look at the whole picture.
 
Yes, but your husband seems to believe you have a drug problem - beyond just the psychogenic meds -...
I hear you. I did try quitting pot and smoking cigarettes because I though they were more socially acceptable. I found them super addictive and they gave me a bad anxiety issue. I like smoking. I tried vaping but that's not for me.

And yes it bothers me that my husband thinks I have issues. Having the bipolar meds actually working for me can actually explain everything

The real problem is that I don't have the backbone to say these are my meds, I am taking them and you will accept this. I have seriously considered giving up all meds but not having them is what started all this.

I have read the posts about getting through med free. I tried the holy basil and it didn't help. The best no med thing that I have found is spot on nutrition. I have researched vitamins, etc. I do think clean eating is important and really it makes me feel good.
 
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Great posts in pad and breakups forum that has helped me look at the relationship.

PTSD and breakups
 
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@Chaos I wasn't offended. I do hope though that you make a decision that is best for you....
 
Well then, if he's too lazy or selfish to see a counsellor and wants to take charge of your medication regimen, to "save you". He needs to get his butt back into school and become a licensed therapist. Then go back to school again to get a doctorate in psychiatric medicine. It would still be a breach of ethics to practice medicine on you, but at least he might actually have a rudimentary knowledge of what the hell he's flapping his gums about.
You wanted to be told to hide your meds? Yup. Hiding them would be a sound strategy, especially considering they will be stolen the instant you aren't looking.

and he has been watching and I am doing so much better
Huh. Funny coincidence that.

Also, if he's still reading this. I have a question (several actually) for him.

Everything written from this point, is directed solely at the husband.


If you were to have a medical condition such as asthma, diabetes, hypertension or severe allergy. Would it be acceptable if your wife threw out your inhaler?
Or what about your insulin, hypertension medication or epi-pen (used to treat anaphylaxis)?

What makes you think it's acceptable or safe to suddenly deprive your wife of a medication that alters her brain chemistry?
It isn't. At all.
It is likely to make her unstable.
With the amount of time you likely wasted to open all the caplets, dump out the contents and actually put then back together again. You could have been sitting in a marriage counsellors office, doing something actually beneficial for your wife. Why did you do that in the first place? Do you really have such a low opinion of your wife, that she would actually fall for that? Unbelievable.

You really want to help her get off the meds? Then help her.
Go to the marriage counsellor, read more on this site about what she struggles with. Talk to her, not at her.

Finally, if you think your wife has a drug problem. Why the hell do you keep a big bag of pot in the house?
That would be like moving an alcoholic into a wine cellar.
 
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