General Husband With Ptsd

[Daniellex4]

Is there anyone else husband has ptsd. I need someone to talk to before i break

 

[Glo809]

Greetings
I am a husband with ptsd.

I can be a handfull at times but not directed at the living, always at inanimate objects.

I often think of the Mrs and what she has to deal with when I'm not in the best of moods, she just remains quiet and won't interact with me, she told me that her previous relationships all dealt with anger that was aimed at her.

And she does not want to take a chance that her action of compassion might get her hurt. and if I did, when I would. Find out what I did, it would destroy me.

So I don't push, I get help anywhere I can and share what I learned when calm, my ptsd has nothing to do with her.

Been dealing with this for a year, but it started when I was six so 49 years before it emerged.

I wish she would do what your doing, look for somebody to talk to who's been there done that.

Take care
G

 

[Daniellex4]

Greetings
I am a husband with ptsd.

I can be a handfull at times but not directed at the living, always...

Thank you. I need help understand his action. Im emotional breaking down. Im the bad guy all the time. I need help before our marriage ends

 

[ladee]

Understanding his actions is only a small part of what is going on here....you have to find some outside help... get help for yourself.. many supporters have a therapist to learn how to take care of them selves.... you are lost in the PTSD rats maze that we as the ones with PTSD have our own hard time navigating... please consider getting yourself some help...
of course come here and share... but possible look up a thread called "What a ride" by Snowflake.... he was where you are when he joined.... he got help... I think his story would be very inspiring....
We appreciate that you reached out... read all you can.... but the bottom line... most of the time we don't know why we do what we do.... so it would be unreasonable for you to try and outrun his symptoms....
Glad you are here... hope you get some help... gentle hugs if you accept.

 

[Netsy]

Is there anyone else husband has ptsd. I need someone to talk to before i break

Its 4 hours since you put your post up. I hope you are okey ?... There was a post put up by this Forum months ago.. it said,,, Respond don't react and walk away. I have found this to be very helpful and actually it has become my bible really. Sometimes its best to be quiet and go for a walk. You can only do YOUR best . I wish you all blessings to help you and your husband.

 

[Netsy]

oopsss did I stuff up... sorry have read the wrong message... but gosh yes the same is for you... I have complex PTSD, and gosh do I really have melt downs... I do respond by ... responding and not reacting and walking away from issues that trigger me... I was married many years ago... things didnt work out but not because of PTSD... I only was diagnosed a few years ago....

I believe that communication is such a vital point in any partnership or relationship, marriage and so is peace... we as woman want to be noticed, pampered, and taken out and given flowers and all that crazy Bridget jones stuff .. We are soft like flowers and our petals need to pruned back one by one by other stuff...we woman love to be loved...

.. but hey its a two way street and men with PTSD who are incredibly strong without a doubt... their sensors are much higher than a man who has not been through trauma etc.,,, gosh I hope this doesnt sound crazy... PTSD is a crazy world... we live in... Men I can image have to hold their pain in because that is the ideal world. Men are now allowed to express their pain like woman do... Maybe I am wrong there ?.. please forgive me if you think I am wrong... You seem like an amazing man by putting your story on here and I really hope you and your wife can find peace and love and all that frilly stuff you had before

 

[Sweetpea76]

This whole supporter section is for people who love somebody with PTSD. You found your people! It's wonderful to talk to people who understand, because nobody else knows what's it's like.

 

[grimalkin]

There are a lot of us here. Feel free to reach out. I second the recommendation to read @Snowflakes posts. He's helped me through the last few months, which, unfortunately, has reached the point of the end of my marriage.

But we're here, we will listen, and we will help however we can.

And ditto on the getting help for yourself. I wish I had ages ago, but I wasn't in my own mental place to do it until January. Therapy is helping me in ways I didn't realize I needed.

Good luck to you. We are here.