Can i lose my ssdi?

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I've almost 100% decided that I want to do artificial imseminaton and have a child of my own.

Does anyone know the law, if I can lose my disability if I do this? Seeing as I'm seemingly competent enough to have a child...

Thanks!

 

[anonymous]

If you can't work and you're going to be a solo parent....how are you going to handle this when your symptoms flare (as a single parent), and do you realize how expensive children are? Everyone has the right to have a child but at the same time I don't think you've fully thought this through as you would be a single parent with a major mental disorder that prevents you from working and you have limited financial means.

 

[BpinkJ]

I'm not sure it would affect SSDI as in being kicked off. I wouldn't tell anyone how you become pregnant because that is no ones business. It could be from a one night stand. I do know that the child can then draw off your SSDI so the amount you get per month would increase. I have 3 children and PTSD, anxiety and bouts of depression. I would never harm my children, but have thought about it. Children do increase stress levels and I at times lock myself in the bathroom for an escape. I am also married and have a partner to help though. I am alone with my children while my husband works and at times I find myself counting down the hours until he is home again. My symptoms flare and then seem somewhat better. I had my first child at 16 and that seemed to help me because I was busy, but I also worked. I have worked for the past 10-11 years until this past year when I got worse. I have had a lot go on in the past few years and my first born has reached the age I was when I told of my abuse so that threw me off again. I don't want to raise my children on SSDI because I made more working than SSDI could ever pay me. I think my statement says my family would top out at 2300. I made almost that per month working. I have currently applied to hope to use it while I get myself happy and healthy again to start working again. I want family vacations and to spend on my children. SSDI you are very limited. Plus let me add raising children is more than a fulltime job. My youngest will be 1 tomorrow. I don't regret having him, but I have been in a downward spiral since I did. If you are in therapy I would take to the T and see what they think. There are many days I don't want to leave the house and if not for my husband how would I get food to feed my kids? Children are blessings but can be little devils at times! For ex. my 14 year old wants to go to cub scout camp tomorrow to help out (he is a boy scout) and just sprung this on me at 1030pm. It's the little things kids do that adds to stress. I would hope if you decide to do this you have a great support system.

 

[joeylittle]

have a child of my own.

I'm curious - do you have pets?

 

[Fadeaway]

No, it wouldn't affect your SSDI. Also a child is completely different than working. More rewards, but more stress and you also never get a day off. Trying to raise a child on an SSDI income is going to triple that level of stress.

At the same time, I also know that when you truly want a child, none of that matters. I went through a few rounds of I.V.F on SSDI. Of course I also have a husband.

Heads up. They are going to put you on a drug called clomid or a similar drug, it's par for the course so they can control when you ovulate. This drug causes non PTSD sufferers to b in an extremely heightened emotional and sometime hyper vigilant state so with someone with PTSD it makes symptoms 100 fold.


I think the thing is to be completely honest with yourself about all the challenges.

 

[Crow]

I got pets instead of getting pregnant. So glad I made that choice. When my symptoms flare I can just leave. Can't do that with a child for over a decade.

But no. Won't effect your ssi but will increase your monthly income on several fronts.

 

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I'm curious - do you have pets?

No. I'm not a pet person. I've wanted to have children since I can remember

 

[Smile]

No, it wouldn't affect your SSDI. Also a child is completely different than working. More rewards, bu...

Thank you for your non-judgment and info re clomid.
I am aware of all the issues that come with it which is why I'm still working it all out in my head.
FYI, my T is all for it. She thinks I can handle it