T wants me to take down my google review of her

[anonymous]

fake review

It's not fake, she's hopeless with childhood trauma...wish your abuser well?!?! I'd leave the review on.

 

[Annlee]

I read this, and I think you might find it relevant in terms of client's reviewing therapists. Therapists are unable to respond to a person's review, because of confidentiality. However, a restaurant and other such private businesses are able to respond to a review.

 

[UnicornSightings]

I should sue her for wasting my time and ask for a refund for withholding the truth from me.. I told her I...

See? That’s a lot of anger you’re harboring. I get how that statement she made could be very hurtful but did you try to talk about how hurt you were with her? What was her response? On one level I get her reply. If it’s eating you up then, ultimately, it would be good to let go of those horrible feelings you have for your perpetrator. When that’s actually done is completely up to you and also optional. But it feels like you took her statement like she was saying what happened was ok. Of course it wasn’t. It never will be. But when you keep holding onto anger, for anyone, you give them all the power still. You’re still the victim then. So maybe her wording sucked. But anyone can have crappy phrasing. I’ve heard the same thing worded differently in several posts on this site. I get that you couldn’t let it go and moved on to someone else but even though her statement hurt you, it was meant to help you. Just didn’t quite land with where you’re at now. I wouldn’t call her awful strictly for that.


And I agree with the others, she could most definitely sue you and win. You really want this battle?


Maybe it took her 6 months of actively listening to you to fully determine she wasn’t completely qualified. That would be really hard to know until you at least give it a shot. Like if you go to ANY therapist with any problem they aren’t an expert in, it doesn’t mean they can’t help you. Yes, specialization is important but moreso is the relationship. And they get that experience by continually helping people. Yeah it was 6 months but it wasn’t 2 years... I really feel people ultimately try their best and maybe she did. And yeah, maybe it didn’t cut it but to be petty about it is pretty vindictive. And I’m not taking her side, just trying you widen your vision right now.

 

[anonymous]

And I agree with the others, she could most definitely sue you and win. You really want this battle?

Would she really go to all that trouble? It seems very unfair, the op's review of her is only warning others she's not a great therapist..so now we aren't allowed to tell the truth without being sued?

 

[Sideways]

so now we aren't allowed to tell the truth without being sued?

There’s a range of other options.

If it’s important to leave a review? Write one out that is honest (and factually correct), then maybe run it by someone that could offer an objective opinion before posting it publicly? Sit on it for a couple of weeks (it’s not urgent, right?) and see if you’re still happy with what you’ve written?

People will read the review and it could influence whether they see her or someone else (that’s what reviews are for). This may include professional peers that she regularly gets referrals from.

So, if she thinks it could cost her business, she may well see it as a big enough deal to pursue through legal channels. This is particularly since she’s obviously aware of the review, and has already taken time to try and get it removed.

 

[Neverthesame]

I would consider changing the name to something proper fictitious. Not because of a honesty best policy, but because if your therapist was able to work out your ID through it, someone else could too. If you want to put your real name on it, oookay....
Just be mindful of the risk that comes from putting your real name anywhere on the Internet.
Personally, I wouldn't be keen to out myself because a therapist was a little butt-hurt over a Google review.

I do agree with changing the content of the critique to the actual complaint. Not to avoid a lawsuit, but the point of leaving a poor review is for other consumers to avoid the pitfall you stepped in.

If you aren't comfortable going into detail, make it super vague. Something like:
"The therapist and I had an irreconcilable difference of opinion on a personal matter. I felt I was being pushed into a resolution of a conflict in a manner that I fundamentally disagree with."
Something like that, says it all without saying anything.

That's my opinion on this, for what it's worth.

 

[Rumors]

I own a business where someone left a bad review on my company once. The ringer was I didn't even sell the product to them. It was a resale several years after I sold it and clearly out of warranty. I don't care now but in the beginning I did. I know who it was but never reached out to them. The thing about your review is that you left false information. In my review there were falsehoods and stating conversations that never happened and this person was upset bc I wouldn't fix something that was caused by the previous owner more than a decade later. You need to keep it real. It's ok not to like the therapist but if you are going to leave a review you should at least keep the facts real. I hope you will make the right choice. Hang in there! I understand why you would try and keep anonymity but honesty is the best policy.

 

[Deleted member 38906]

Moo, it is your decision at the end of the day. You are allowed to right a review, but if you are asking for our opinio...

It's all of those things anger, warning revenge. Most of my anger comes from the fact that after I told her how she hurt me, she kept on defending her statement and moto to wish everyone well in life. If she had apologized or even acknowledged that maybe it was too soon for me to do that and asked to see me again, things would have been different. How do I let go of my anger if I take the review down? I want justice :|

 

[Deleted member 38906]

and i know it seems that i am over reacting but it's not just that one statement. the are other things she said that were hurtful and i just want other people to know shes not good at deep work. one of the first things she said to me was..you're controlling, dont like to do as you are told (this is after i refused to make a truama timeline outlining every big trauma in my life at her request) and its understandable. she also said that abused people become abusers which was really depressing for me to hear. i already hate myself as is, i didnt need to have her tell me that. i thought therapists are supposed to be on our sides...and every time i tried to bring up a hurt feeling she would get defensive...im so scared to proceed with my new T bc of her. even though he reassures me he will repair things if i get hurt, i just cant get myself to bring anything up with him, bc im scared hes going to get hurt and defensive ruining our relationship.

 

[UnicornSightings]

Would she really go to all that trouble? It seems very unfair, the op's review of her is only warning...

Op admitted that she lied. I would sue.

 

[Neverthesame]

she also said that abused people become abusers which was really depressing for me to hear

Abused people can sometimes become abusers themselves. It's by no means a guarantee.

one of the first things she said to me was..you're controlling, dont like to do as you are told

Ha! I'd call that being stubborn at worst.
Wanting to be in control of yourself, is not being controlling. Wanting to control other people, that's being controlling.
IMHO A therapist isn't supposed to tell you what to do. They're supposed to guide you to find what you need.

I see why you left a bad review. I would have too.

 

[Muted]

Personally, I think changing it and leaving an honest constructive review being as objective as possible would be best.

Consider this, how many of us have been to horrible mental health ‘professionals’ that have cause more harm than good? Had we read some honest reviews and reconsidered going to them, could we have avoided the trouble?

If your review saved one person from going through what you went through with her, would it be worth it?

How many times have people in those positions taken advantage of those of us with issues, because they can get away with pointing to us as being the ‘crazy ones’?

Quite often they haven’t worked through their own issues and try and present a perfect persona and point at everyone else with their psychobabble.

Just my opinion.