The secrets i keep from my t...

[Muted]

The secrets I keep from my T....

I’m relapsed. I’m a mess, I’ve given up, I’ve fooled you, because you think I’m doing good.

 

[Rose White]

Tell them. You can do it.

 

[UnicornSightings]

It’s ok. You’re ok. Just let your t know.

 

[anonymous]

Tell them. You can do it.

It’s ok. You’re ok. Just let your t know.

You guys, I can’t!!! It has taken control and its strong.... I have to let my t go...

 

[Rose White]

You guys, I can’t!!! It has taken control and its strong.... I have to let my t go...

What is the worst thing that could happen if you tell them? And what is the best thing that could happen?

 

[Muted]

What is the worst thing that could happen if you tell them? And what is the best thing that cou...

The worst thing is... she could make me fatter than I am now. The best thing is...nothing. I can’t do this, I can’t be normal, healthy and fat.

 

[Rose White]

The worst thing is... she could make me fatter than I am now..

I wish I knew what to say to help you question your beliefs about this problem.

Maybe if you post this on the Other Disorders sub-forum the ED folks could help you work through this better.

 

[Muted]

I wish I knew what to say to help you question your beliefs about this problem.

Maybe if you po...

I don’t know how to change it.

 

[Friday]

The worst thing is... she could make me fatter than I am now

Nope. She can’t. You’d have to agree to it. Being honest about lapsing or relapsing in your eating disorder doesn’t mean that you have to instantly stop lapsing.

I don’t know how...

That what being honest allows you to BEGIN to do; start learning how to change it.

 

[Muted]

That what being honest allows you to BEGIN to do; start learning how to change it.

I can’t... I can’t let go of the control. I can’t tell her.

 

[Friday]

can’t let go of the control

You don’t have to.

You still remain 100% in control, no matter what she knows. Or doesn’t know.

If you think you’re only in control, when people don’t know things? That’s honestly something I’d bring up IN therapy. You retain your agency, being in total control of yourself & your life, regardless of who knows what. Other people’s opinions? Aren’t gospel. You’re not doing good just because she thinks you’re doing good. You can remain 100% lapsed, even if she thinks you should stop.

^^^
That’s also a way to start the discussion without having to tell her you’ve lapsed. Talk about what’s creating the situation, rather than the situation itself.

If other people’s opinions matter so deeply to you that you don’t feel in control of your own life if people know what’s going on in your life? That’s going to feed into a LOT of different situations. And there will be a lot of pieces to work on.

 

[EveHarrington]

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Isn’t there a reason you’re in therapy?

A month ago I hurt myself. I broke down and told my community support person. I knew she’d tell my therapist, and she did. My therapist asked me if I’d consider partial hospitalization. I agreed and was admitted the next day. I was in partial hospitalization for the next 4 weeks. BEST THING THAT COULD HAVE EVER HAPPENED. I’m now on meds that are helping me. I’m now stabilizing.

Just take a risk and open up. It could be the best thing ever.