New therapist rescheduled a lot. would you take it?

[UnicornSightings]

So have only seen him 4 times but I like him a lot. He’s asked me to change time/day like 3 times lol. So I’m not upset yet about it but I think I will be if it continues? Maybe? Maybe not? Therapy is really casual right now and I could move on or I could say something. I would feel kinda bitchy saying “Hey, is it possible for you to double check your schedule so we don’t need to alter our meeting time?” I mean. I could say that. Ugh. He’s pretty great otherwise. Is it kinda lame he’s asking to reschedule a lot? Clearly it’s his own issue with time management. What do you guys think? Would you say something or wait to see if it keeps happening or what?

Ugh. The very fact that I posted this means I have to say something to him or I wouldn’t have even bothered. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh. Ok.

 

[Stephernovas]

He's ASKING you to switch. What's going to happen if you say....no?

 

[UnicornSightings]

I can’t say no. That’d be rude. Like I get that it’s rude for him to ask but it’d be rude to say no. Yeah. I know how that sounds...

 

[Friday]

I don’t know that it’s rude, per se, so much as the alternative is waiting a week.

 

[UnicornSightings]

I don’t know that it’s rude, per se, so much as the alternative is waiting a week.

I feel like it’s rude when it’s like 3 times, you know? Feeling like not that high of a priority. I’ll have to say that.

 

[Friday]

I meant that saying no, that doesn’t work for me isn’t rude. It just is.

If rescheduling doesn’t work, though? The alternative means waiting a week, yes?

 

[EveHarrington]

I think you should say something.

 

[UnicornSightings]

I’m not exactly in the habit of saying no. I feel like if I do, he won’t forget and stay pissed off and that will always be there. And yeah, the alternative is skipping that week. Maybe I’ll look for someone else.

 

[Stephernovas]

I’m not exactly in the habit of saying no. I feel like if I do, he won’t forget and stay p...

1) you’re paying for a service
2) you are not responsible for his schedule
3) you are as equally important as everyone else
4) you are catastrophizing a simple request. If he didn’t care about how it affected you, he’d just change you without asking.

Also, that’s mind reading/ fortune telling. You don’t know any of this to be true in the slightest. Sounds like some distorted thinking to me

 

[UnicornSightings]

Yeah, I have some minor communication issues I guess still. I emailed a new therapist. I don’t want to have to iron out wrinkles with someone who should know to treat people with respect.

 

[LuckiLee]

What's his reasoning behind it? I would address it. If not to him personally then to his office staff. Ask them the reason and go from there. It may have been because of the holidays? However we're done with holidays for a bit now. If it's because of poor time management schedule your appointment first thing in the morning that way he won't be running behind schedule.

 

[UnicornSightings]

What's his reasoning behind it? I would address it. If not to him personally then to his office staff....

It’s just him. We schedule our next appt at the end of session. Which was yesterday. He’s not very available in the mornings. And he was late yesterday. Like a few min only but it kinda still speaks to his time management. And he’s been doing this for like 10 years...