New therapist rescheduled a lot. would you take it?

[UnicornSightings]

The first six months I was seeing my therapists the times and days were really random. They reall...

No, that part I’m actually ok with. My evenings are kind of weird as well so I’m fine with it being random days/times actually. Surprisingly. But the changing times after it’s already been confirmed is where I’m gonna have issues. But it sounds like that won’t be so much a problem anymore. We shall see. Biggest thing is I need to feel like my time matters. Like my time slot matters. And he isn’t making room for other clients thinking I just won’t mind. Cause I do. And now he knows.

 

[Scarlet13]

So my therapist has to be reminded easily 3 times to send an invoice.
Its easy to forget they are human and make mistakes.
This might actually be a fluke in that he has had to reschedule several times with you just because of his life, but normally does not do that.

 

[Friday]

It’s super common for marriage & family therapists to not lock people into appointment times, because 2 work schedules + kids activity schedules change at least 4 times a year, and competitive sports far more often. So games on tues/thurs evening this week, mon/wed next week, with booster events on Friday this week, and Saturday next week? Make it very much a dance of slotting therapy appointments in where they fit. It’s also fairly common, at least in my area, for MFT therapists to text clients to see if alt day/time might work for them. Sometimes yes, sometimes no, but it’s all very normal in divorced parent land. As in, I used to see it happen at least once a week on my son’s sports teams. So, 60 some parents, at 5 -15 events a week, at least half of whom were in therapy with their kids. Once a week wasn’t happening to everyone all the time, but stil super duper common to hear “wait a sec, we just need to move our therapy day, real quick...JIM! Does Tuesday at 415 work for you?!? With Barb?... okay, and sent. What’s up?”. From the hours of school is out until bedtime = a total juggling act.

If I’m remembering correctly, you chose to go with the therapist who isn’t a trauma therapist? Any chance they’re an MFT? Because that would explain the bouncy ball scheduling to a T.

One of those opposite paradigm things; showing clients are important to them by being really flexible with their schedule, as opposed to showing clients they’re important to them by keeping a rock solid consistent schedule.

 

[UnicornSightings]

It’s super common for marriage & family therapists to not lock people into appointment times, because...

He said it’s not normally like this but with people still coming back from the holidays it’s just weird fitting everyone in. He didn’t use the word weird lol. But that it’s just challenging at the moment and that it will normalize after awhile. And yeah, I did consider after initially posting that he’s being very cool to fit me in as MY schedule is a bit difficult. I made sure to let him know that I appreciate him.

 

[Girlrecovering]

I see my therapist 2x/week. She has other clients she sees every 1-3 weeks apart or even once a month. My appointment time may vary from week to week to accommodate her other clients. The T is asking you about the session time adjustment! The thought of changing therapist over something like this would blow me out of the water! Recovering from horrible trauma and starting my story over and over is the last thing I want. We are all human.

 

[UnicornSightings]

I see my therapist 2x/week. She has other clients she sees every 1-3 weeks apart or even once a month. My appoi...

It’s not that the time is different each time it’s that he wanted to keep rescheduling after we had booked our sessions. But it’s already been resolved anyway.

 

[savon davais]

So have only seen him 4 times but I like him a lot. He’s asked me to change time/day like 3...

Who knows, why are you seeing a therapist, what are you dealing with, how are you showing your concern for your well being. Maybe you should ask yourself. Maybe he feels he doesn't have what it takes.

 

[savon davais]

No, that part I’m actually ok with. My evenings are kind of weird as well so I’m fine with...

If you don't allow your therapist to see how much you actually need therapy, it may not register with him. There are many people that use therapist to just complain about life in general, don't be afraid to allow your therapist to do his job.

 

[Abstract]

A really goof opportunity to practice speaking up about your feelings and having an open discussion about something whilst taking both the others persons reality and yours into account. :tup:

 

[amymuse]

I experienced the same thing with a therapist I went to for a couple of years. In the beginning, she changed my appointments 3 or 4 times for different reasons. She was more apologetic the last time. I never complained and was very understanding that she had alot of important things to schedule. It never happened again. Maybe that's why it suddenly occurred to me - several years later - that she must have done it on purpose to test how accommodating I was. She discovered that I was very depressed, and didn't have enough self-respect to react when she kept pushing my boundaries.

 

[UnicornSightings]

I experienced the same thing with a therapist I went to for a couple of years. In the beginning, she c...

My very first therapist knew I had crap self-esteem and repeatedly was late (20-45 min) and canceled and rescheduled. She definitely wasn’t testing me. She sucked. I didn’t realize how awful she was until my last one who treated me like I was worthy of respect and care! I’m so glad your t stopped rescheduling.