Sexual Assault Outting your r*pist on social media - thoughts

[Flecksofmidnight]

I think it's worth asking what difference it would make to your quality of life for you to "out" him? H...

I disagree with the part where you said OP is giving the rapist power over them. That’s kind of victim blaming

 

[Suzetig]

How is what I wrote in any way victim blaming?

 

[illusionist]

I couldn't...... His family don't deserve the possible effects of it.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I personally have been raped and want nothing more to do with them ever again in my life. I have healed and recovered and had the EMDR that helped to destress the memories and have a good private life where no one knows very much about me anymore.

I want to keep my life private and safe as possible. How old are you because that could be a large part of why you are thinking about this I think. It depends on that for one thing. I would not want any further conncection to them in any way at all either.

I have never thought about doing this. I am older and come from a time where there was a great deal of silence and denial where as today things are more often believed and more visible.

 

[lookingfor help]

I personally have been raped and want nothing more to do with them ever again in my life. I have healed an...

I’m 19

 

[Deleted member 12723]

This makes so much sense to me you being a much younger age than me. Social media and technology is a big deal to the yound adults I have noticed in my own grandkids you guys grew up with it and are very familiar with it and are pretty savvy about using technology and social media. Thank you for sharing your age with me. :hug:

 

[New]

@lookingfor help I can so relate to some of your story. I was treated bad by police as well.

I’m so sorry and you didn’t deserve any of it.

I do understand why you want to out the person on social media but I am afraid it may end up hurting you more.

It’s just my opinion but people on social media can be very cruel and I fear people would leave comments you may not like.

I could be wrong and hope that I am. Just think about it and if you could handle reading other people’s thoughts.

 

[Mee]

I don’t think belief is that much more automatic today sadly.

Regarding reporting being useless because the case was dropped I would like to offer you a different perspective; 90 percent of these people are believed to reoffend. That you were one of the brave minority who reported might in itself have made this person think and address their behaviour. If not should a subsequent victim be also brave enough to report YOUR report is on file and supports them.

This is the attitude I took .

Most sexual crimes aren’t really proceed able :( it becomes one person’s word against another. I don’t know an answer to this but god knows we need one; because waiting until there are multiple victims prepared to come forward is not working. But YOU can take pride in being one of them; some one who might help someone in the future.


Would I do what you are suggesting?mo! Why? Ultimately it will gain the person sympathy and reduce the believability of more cleanly made accusations.

That’s my opinion .

It also just doesn’t jar with my way of being; and it’s me I have to live with.