You mean I don't have a corner on the market concerning name-calling at myself???:D It is hard to change what has become automatic. There are times, now, that I can laugh at my automatic put-downs. The ol' emotions say one thing but under the self-descriptions, I know they are not true. It's just getting the noggin to cooperate and change its automatic format. I have heard that the more one hears their own voice, the easier it is to reset the mind. So, I guess when we call ourselves 'stupid' or some other derogatory derivative, we need to speak a positive counter point, out loud, to neutralize the initial view. At least this is what I am trying to do...along with the sentence restructuring that Frieda mentions. I guess the quick solution to your granddaughter hearing you degrade yourself, is to laugh, and correct it, letting her see that there is a better way to see one's self.
