Emdr/therapy: impatient, what is wrong with me?

[Deleted member 34328]

Traumas sometimes seem like Russian dolls or like an onion:

I like the onion analogy. Seems to me that what seems like the "big 1" is only the skin. Once that comes off, the layers underneath become more painful - and as in cooking, begin to cause tears.

Quite a fitting example.

 

[Sea_lady]

@stp2012 That is exactly what I meant and how I view the onion analogy. I would also add that once cooked correctly (once the trauma are properly processed and cleared), the onion in the food adds a tasty flavour and gives us the strength our body needs to live another day without hunger. It is true there is a lot of crying before though...

 

[Freida]

@Sea_lady that is a wonderful analogy.... especially the part about what changes when you cook the onion

 

[Deleted member 34328]

@stp2012 That is exactly what I meant and how I view the onion analogy. I would als...

A great way to put it. I suppose it's more like know that the cooking will take place. Very few people eat them raw...or not as many recipes call for it. Thanks.

 

[Nathalie]

I am also in EMDR and it certainly isnt going to be quick. My T says that when one is quite dissociated from the event(s) then its a lot harder because there are blocks along the way, unconscious blocks that are supposed to be protective but can stall therapy because the mind is not ready to process them. I keep wanting to believe my trauma's dont exist which doesnt make processing them easy. I have 2 adult rapes that I more or less will acknowledge but childhood stuff seems to be coming up and that I wont go near. Currently T just trying to diminish horrid body sensations and fear with EMDR rather than process trauma.
Just to say you are not alone in finding this a difficult thing.