Hey. I'm sorry that this whole situation happened.
@Moo , I would really like it if you heard me say this. You. Are. A. Good. Person. You are trying your bum off in a very difficult world. You used your friend's name because you didn't feel safe enough using yours. And that's what trauma does - makes us feel unsafe. And then you get idiots who just ride roughshod, according to some stupid idea.
People can make judgement calls that turn out to be wrong. And that doesn't mean that they're rubbish people.
So you made a judgement call that was ill-advised, and sh*t happened.
(Also, I'm not the biggest fan of your therapist.) You did what you could at the time. Something in me feels quite protective of you. I've had bloody rubbish therapists, and some that were actively harmful. And eff them all to heck. (I had one insist,twice a week, for 2 months, question if I was really gay because my abuser 'turned me gay'.)
Speaking from a medical/cybersecurity perspective (yes, I'm experienced and yes, these are the kind of things I help people protect against, but I've made my fair share of complaints):
- it is her responsibility, as a medical professional to protect against this stuff. Not yours for leaving a bad review. Practitioners can claim their name and office in Google settings, and bar reviews from appearing, as well as moderate through key words. So don't feel guilty about her changing her business type or deleting or whatever. Where I am, the law's pretty clear. It's not like she couldn't afford to pay someone who'd do this for her. In fact, it's her responsibility to make sure her practice is "reasonably secure"
- that said, using a fake name means your review is false according to the law. Like, you could write the deepest, the most painful, the truest review. You could spend ten years crafting it. You could go and get it blessed by the Pope and the Dalai Lama. And the law would be that you used a false name and therefore anything you have to say, under that name, is not relevant.
- Also, your ex-therapist a jerk. I'm sorry you spent six months excavating your wounds just to have her say that, of all things.
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I'm a bit lost as to what to tell you, or what to say.
