Mee
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Last night I learned that someone I used to know is having an affair with someone else I used to know. I do not know the wife. Affairs are a big trigger issue for me and my first instinct was that the act of integrity would be to seek out and tell the wife.
Friends have assured me this is crazy and sort of vigilante behaviour and it’s not my job to be the morality police so I have agreed not to act but it’s sitting very , very uncomfortably that I know this information about a tremendous betrayal and deception and I could enable a person to protect herself.
I feel very strongly about sexual deception and abuse and integrity and I feel very deeply conflicted and spinning. I do accept that people who I ‘used to know’ and someone I don’t are not my business. I am trying to excuse myself on the basis that the person who told me ( she told me that the guy was separated, his wife lived in a different part of the country now, and I know that’s not true ) might be misinformed or trouble making. But I feel like I am letting myself off and bystanding her abuse and deceit from her husband:(.
Can anyone help me see wood for trees or real issue from my triggers here?
Last night I learned that someone I used to know is having an affair with someone else I used to know. I do not know the wife. Affairs are a big trigger issue for me and my first instinct was that the act of integrity would be to seek out and tell the wife.
Friends have assured me this is crazy and sort of vigilante behaviour and it’s not my job to be the morality police so I have agreed not to act but it’s sitting very , very uncomfortably that I know this information about a tremendous betrayal and deception and I could enable a person to protect herself.
I feel very strongly about sexual deception and abuse and integrity and I feel very deeply conflicted and spinning. I do accept that people who I ‘used to know’ and someone I don’t are not my business. I am trying to excuse myself on the basis that the person who told me ( she told me that the guy was separated, his wife lived in a different part of the country now, and I know that’s not true ) might be misinformed or trouble making. But I feel like I am letting myself off and bystanding her abuse and deceit from her husband:(.
Can anyone help me see wood for trees or real issue from my triggers here?