Hello Everyone, I am new and have been reading and getting lost in many posts the last few days.
I have recently met a man, who has turned my world upside down in the best way possible. We are very new to each other, but clicked very quickly. Keeping in communication pretty much all day, and wanting to know everything about each other.
Last Sunday he informed me he suffers from PTSD, he served in the Army for almost 10 years. He left it at that, because he clearly was not ready to talk about it and I didn't want to push him. He told me prior he has a hard to falling asleep and has low self esteem. So I find myself reassuring him how wonderful he is. Things were going great we had plans to have a date Wednesday night, we were both so excited to see each other again.
Tuesday night he messaged me super late while I was asleep that something funny had happened. When I woke up, I responded and he told me that as much as he really likes me and wants to continue to like me, he doesn't think this is a good idea. I had messaged him why, with no reply. I was devastated and heartbroken.
I didn't hear from him unti I messaged him the next day asking what is going on. He informed me that he had a severe PTSD episode the night before from drinking too much, that scared the crap out of him. He didn't think it was fair or a good idea for me, to try and build a relationship with him while he seemed help.
I assured him, that I wasn't walking away unless he, 100% told me he doesn't want me in his life. That I genuinely care about him, and will be there for him if he will let me. That I will wait, until he is ready.
We cancelled our plans for that evening because he said he need time to get his head on straight, and I gave him the space to do so. Only with him knowing that I wasn't going anywhere. He later texted me instructions to watch 2 videos from one of his favorite bands. And explained the night before he almost took his life. Thankfully he is apart of an MC of all vets who are super close and they talked him down.
I assured him again, I wasn't going anywhere and I know there are things I can never understand. He informed me the following day he was seeking inpatient rehab with the VA. The last I have heard from him was Thursday, and he was sitting at the VA awaiting paperwork because they found him somewhere. I told him that was great and he should continue to concentrate on him and get the help. That I will be there when he is ready.
Sorry for the long post, but I am hoping others who have gone through this might have some insight. What are some things that I can expect, once he is out of rehab? Any recommendations on things to read?
I have recently met a man, who has turned my world upside down in the best way possible. We are very new to each other, but clicked very quickly. Keeping in communication pretty much all day, and wanting to know everything about each other.
Last Sunday he informed me he suffers from PTSD, he served in the Army for almost 10 years. He left it at that, because he clearly was not ready to talk about it and I didn't want to push him. He told me prior he has a hard to falling asleep and has low self esteem. So I find myself reassuring him how wonderful he is. Things were going great we had plans to have a date Wednesday night, we were both so excited to see each other again.
Tuesday night he messaged me super late while I was asleep that something funny had happened. When I woke up, I responded and he told me that as much as he really likes me and wants to continue to like me, he doesn't think this is a good idea. I had messaged him why, with no reply. I was devastated and heartbroken.
I didn't hear from him unti I messaged him the next day asking what is going on. He informed me that he had a severe PTSD episode the night before from drinking too much, that scared the crap out of him. He didn't think it was fair or a good idea for me, to try and build a relationship with him while he seemed help.
I assured him, that I wasn't walking away unless he, 100% told me he doesn't want me in his life. That I genuinely care about him, and will be there for him if he will let me. That I will wait, until he is ready.
We cancelled our plans for that evening because he said he need time to get his head on straight, and I gave him the space to do so. Only with him knowing that I wasn't going anywhere. He later texted me instructions to watch 2 videos from one of his favorite bands. And explained the night before he almost took his life. Thankfully he is apart of an MC of all vets who are super close and they talked him down.
I assured him again, I wasn't going anywhere and I know there are things I can never understand. He informed me the following day he was seeking inpatient rehab with the VA. The last I have heard from him was Thursday, and he was sitting at the VA awaiting paperwork because they found him somewhere. I told him that was great and he should continue to concentrate on him and get the help. That I will be there when he is ready.
Sorry for the long post, but I am hoping others who have gone through this might have some insight. What are some things that I can expect, once he is out of rehab? Any recommendations on things to read?
