Relationship Boyfriend with ptsd said he needs space?

[master z]

Than you @EveHarrington i know you hate giving advice but what suggestions do you have? I wasn't right but starting to feel like a new guy is coming in the picture and she is pushing me away

 

[master z]

That’s not cool!

Essentially she’s saying she can say whatever she wants to you but you can...

She wrote me a message saying how she felt bad she broke my heart

 

[EveHarrington]

Than you @EveHarrington i know you hate giving advice but what suggestions do you h...

Sorry it’s hard for me to keep stories straight.

What is your status? Friends? In a relationship? On a break?

Do you know for sure that she’s interested in someone else?

 

[blackemerald1]

How about you stop reading her social media stuff. It's breaking your heart and is always open for misunderstanding.

Do you know for sure that she’s interested in someone else?

^^^Like this?

 

[master z]

Sorry it’s hard for me to keep stories straight.

What is your status? Friends? In a relations...

Status is half way between friends and relationship.

No I don't know if she is intrested in someone else just feels like it

 

[AliciaEff]

Status is half way between friends and relationship.

No I don't know if she is intrested in someone...

Well it sounds like you may both need to figure out your lives. PTSD might explain her behaviour, but it does not excuse it. It is still her responsibility to make sure she is getting treatment and not harming other people. She sounds 100% manipulative and that is not okay.

If you’re not in a relationship, space makes sense just in general. Also, try to not speculate about her feelings or you’re going to make this worse for yourself. It sounds like you really care about her and you really want to be with her, but a relationship takes more than feelings. It’s about being a team and that means she needs to put in some effort, PTSD or not, if she wants a relationship with you.

 

[master z]

Well it sounds like you may both need to figure out your lives. PTSD might explain her behaviour, but...

She is in therapy.

The relationship thing I moved on from till she healed. It's more I have been through a bunch of bad times and patient.

I own I get frustrated and upset when I get anxiety or hold feelings in. It also feels like she is setting the tone or wants another relationship that is abusive.

 

[master z]

Not saying she wants to be abused want to be clear. It seems that the way she is going about ceartin things would lead to abusive patterns and behavior

 

[Pippi427]

What frustrates me with my sufferer is she is always saying she needs space and not ready to talk. Yet...

My sufferer isolates and often does not want to talk about his issues, but NEVER turns back on me or is outwardly hurtful to me in any way. Her lambasting you on social media is not OK, especially if it is public. That is completely unfair to you. That really sucks, I'm sorry.

 

[master z]

My sufferer isolates and often does not want to talk about his issues, but NEVER turns back on me or i...

@Pippi427 Thanks. Since we are in similar situations may I dm you?

 

[master z]

I take full ownership of being a anxiety drama queen over social media. The thing that bothersome is it appears you put forth all this effort for other people and not the person who voluntarily sacrificed when you needed someone.

Me choosing to be there does not entitle me to anything.

 

[EveHarrington]

I take full ownership of being a anxiety drama queen over social media. The thing that bothersome is i...

I think it would be a good idea to work on accepting that social media activity is not like real life. It’s fluffy, fake, and superficial. You can walk away with no notice as there is no requirement to stay engaged. Not so with real world relationships.