What are your personal epiphanies?

[Fadeaway]

Epiphanies that offer personal insight into yourself are important for self growth. Sometimes they are scary but many times they lead to positive change.

I thought it would be nice to post personal revelations about ourselves to encourage us to act on them.

Today I realized that I am a solution orientated person, and I have difficulty letting a problem go until I have reached a solution. When I can't work on solving problems in my life, such as having to wait make a phone call until Monday because it is the weekend, to resolve an issue, my anxiety is higher and I have trouble using coping skills.

I have a very strong drive to resolve relationship issues right then and there, and find it difficult to realise when a time out is needed.

So I am going to practice being more patient when things aren't working out the way I want and realize that not everything needs to be fixed right then.

 

[InsertCoinsHere]

One of my draw dropping moments was during therapy it suddenly dawned on me that my anxiety could never control what was about to happen next (e.g. anxiety before speaking to a person).. I always held on to wanting to have all the solutions and variables in my head beforehand so I could have a sense of control then I realised I could never have control as I'm trying to anticipate the future which is impossible and by doing this it was keeping me detatched from the very now moment where true connection happens, I saw how much my wanting control was a massive crutch in my life and how it actually hindered me further and influenced these 'awful moments of social embarrassment whereby I didn't know what to say or act appropriately'.. It would always be impossible the communicate with the now openly if I was always holding on to the past.

That realisation reduced my social anxiety massively. Its funny because I always knew the theory behind how I was generating my own anxiety but at that very moment I got it on a deeper level where I truly understood the ridiculousness of it all. This was all thanks to a great therapist that was very good at helping me talk my problems and see my own distortions.

 

[Mach123]

I didn't do it. (Well, part of me did.) I was not just 'like that.' Someone showed me how to do those things. I'm not evil. I was sexually abused. Even if I thought I wanted to do what I was doing, I was too young to decide that. I forgive me. I forgive you.

 

[ILoveLife]

I give up a lot. Not even going to place the blame outside of myself. Things go to shit and then I feel sorry for myself because once again I had given up.
Its the same in running away from my problems. Trying to face them now, and the accumulated pain is huge.
Currently trying to change these two issues.

 

[Deleted member 44579]

Hi @Fadeaway.... Well recently affirmations... Positive things about myself.... It my case.... I'm strong.
I'm beautiful
I'm powerful.
Beats the hell out of all the negative shite... And it makes me feel good.....

 

[Changing4Best]

"I'm not what I eat" was the first thought I had. There is that old cliche that 'one is what one eats,' but I disagree! If I were what I eat, I would be a "Sloppy Joe" because that is what I ate yesterday. I am nothing like a Sloppy Joe! LOL (although I am sometimes sloppy).

 

[TruthSeeker]

Meds and trauma killed my senses.

 

[Candleflames]

My biggest epiphany happened in therapy. It dawned on me that I wasn't to blame. That I was a child and no matter how "difficult" of a child I was, it wasn't my fault. With gaining that insight I released the shame and embarrassment I had been holding on to. It freed me to relax.

The next epiphany I had was that I get to decide where my boundaries are and enforce them. I'm no longer accepting accepting negative attention from people I don't like because "it beats being alone". I decided what I wanted and how I wanted to feel then negotiate mutually beneficial relationships based on our healthy needs. My social circle is small but so enriching.

 

[gealach]

I was told that I'm using food to "fill a hole" in my life, and that I've gained weight to "wrap myself in protection", but those theories never felt right. I finally figured out that I'm using food as self harm. Just like alcohol. Just like cutting. I'm eating foods that are harmful, and in a way that is harmful. Intentionally. Now that I know... time to do something about it.

 

[420kitty]

I need to work on my insecurities.

 

[Suzetig]

That no matter what I did or didn’t do, the punishment far outweighed the crime. So, if I can’t entirely accept it wasn’t my fault, it doesn’t matter, I still didn’t (and don’t) deserve to be punished any more.

That anxiety is a feeling like any other, there are situation that are anxiety provoking and will mean I feel anxious, it doesn’t mean I “have anxiety”, it means I feel anxious because anyone would feel anxious in the same situation.

 

[Still Standing]

Mine was the understanding that I live in fear: fear of people, fear of not doing things correctly, fear of criticism, fear of rejection, and the list goes on. Fear pretty much is the first thing that enters my mind for any new venture or social setting.