What are your personal epiphanies?

[TruthSeeker]

I was told that I'm using food to "fill a hole" in my life, and that I've gained weight to "wrap myse...

Way to go- It took me 20 years to figure this out-to the tune of over 200 lbs added weight! I feel so much better having taken control of my eating habits.!i no longer worry about whether a chair is big enough or solid enough-or whether I can/ can’t participate in an activity with others- or whether other more normal weighted people are judging me. I eat healthier and can do so much more than when I was obese.

Now that I’m okay with my weight, there are times I’ll buy junk food- on vacation and eat what I want when away from home. I freeze healthy and comfort meals at home in small portion size-but it took a while to get there. My emotions were definitely connected to what my brain wants in any given day. I still struggle with Pop.

Good luck and again, way to go!

 

[Suzetig]

Mine was the understanding that I live in fear..

I could have written this - I was scared my whole life. Once I realised that what I was feeling was fear (I thought it was everyones normal way of being and couldn’t understand why people kept doing things that scared me to death, like asking someone to go for lunch) I was able to tackle it.

I’m much less fearful now but I do remember well that realisation that I lived in abject terror most of my life and that most people didn’t live that way.

 

[TruthSeeker]

I never fit in. I was so different from my family-I constantly afraid I wouldn’t fit in- afraid of rejection. I’d do anything to fit in- and unfortunately I did.

Since all the dysfunctional family members have recently rejected me- and they have made it clear that unless I get medicated I won’t be accepted-back intonthe fold-and that isn’t happening-I guess I don’t need to have that fear anymore!

Marching to my own drummer is a more drama- free experience, while attempting to keep my integrity, not drugging/ drinking/ self medicating is how I’m different- to them I’m not normal- I don’t conform.
I won’t either! But it’s so hard without family.

 

[Teasel]

It was a massive revelation to me to realise no one else can define my reality. It's kind of embarrassing to say it now cause I'm sure it's obvious to most people, but I really didn't understand. I guess I didn't have much experience of others respecting my wishes or my view of things.

Wonderful thing for me to learn.

I hope to have better experiences in the second half of my life. I do feel I am becoming allergic to people that use and abuse and have learned a good deal about standing up / looking after myself.