Relationship I’ve left him and he doesn’t care

[blackemerald1]

Oh yeah I can see that scratching a car...:sorry::p:wacky:

 

[Freida]

That ring is amazing!
I wonder if he didn't want you wearing it because it would scratch the car or because it had strong personal meaning to you?

 

[Tinyflame]

I love that you can now wear what has personal meaning to you @Sighs . Yes it is beautiful but doubly beautiful for that reason.

I think by the sound of it the only thing that might have scratched his car was his hard head... :(

:hug:

 

[Pippi427]

He had this thing that I couldn’t wear rings ever because they might scratch the paint on the car doors as you open and shut them. Yeah, I never got it either but I stopped wearing rings because it wasn’t worth being screamed at and forced to take them off and put them in a pocket or handbag.

Shrug!

My goodness...it sounds like we could have been married to the same man. :eek:

 

[Sweetpea76]

Is he still trying to contact you @Sighs?

 

[Mytime]

I could see it scratching the paint. On a DINKY CAR!!!!!

 

[Sighs]

@Sweetpea76 - he still texts and calls but I think he is surprised at the response he gets. I tell him what I really think now. If he doesn’t like it - and he usually doesn’t - he ends the interaction pretty quickly!

He’s not trying to get me to go back to him. I think he knows that ship has sailed and TBH I think he prefers being alone. He’s got the farm, the cars, the horses, the horse float, the camper trailer and his dogs.

The only thing he’s missing is his personal slave and he’s probably on Tinder already to remedy that!

 

[Sighs]

Three forbidden things in one photo! A ring, had manicure (not allowed to spend money on myself) and blue nails (not traditional)!

 

[Sweetpea76]

Wow... he must have a lot of free time if he can micro-manage your nail polish choices. :cautious:

 

[Sighs]

Well yeah! He’s used to managing an entire company of soldiers and now he just has me and a couple dogs - oh wait - had me!

 

[Tinyflame]

I think that's the thing about abusive behaviour, like the frog boiling in the pot. It's control, control, control (whatever means it takes to get it..). 'Forbidden' what you can choose, where you can go, what you will be doing with your own time, money, body; accusations, paranoia, destruction of anything of value to you. Whether through raging, threats, coercion, violence, or making it so unpleasant or impossible nothing other than what the person wants is permitted.And if you would choose otherwise- all the more reason to destroy it. And you in the process.

In that regard, if he has been abusive, @Freida is correct above.

 

[dulcia]

I didn't know you were a lawyer... Could you get even more badass?!

Also, I can't remember, but why are y'all still in contact? I can't remember if there are still logistics things left to work out, or if you simply don't feel the need to go no contact. I only ask because I could not trust myself to do anything but no contact in order to keep my resolve :rolleyes: