How to feel rage in a controlled way?

[Tornadic Thoughts]

I saw a show on the public broadcasting station here in the US a while back about a lady who created a space like the rooms y'all are talking about, called "Tantrum". You could break and destroy all kinds of things and even call ahead to have a room designed for your particular frustrations. What a great idea!

A speed bag was a huge help to me several years ago when I was full of rage. I had a speed bag at home and a speed bag/full bag combo at my office at work.

Having an old board with some nails and hammer has been helpful. It eventually made my brain go straight to MC Hammer, which made me laugh, then sing, then dance.

Breathing deeply on purpose can greatly help me chill....but once strong rageful feelings kick in, it takes more than just breathing alone to get me grounded again.

The mini-trampoline is good for the energetic release, too. You can bounce like a mofo to your favorite songs or whatever and pretend you're stomping that shit right on out as you do it.

Primal screaming in to a pillow, while in the car (or primal singing...lol), or while in the woods (although, location matters greatly as it may freak the neighbors/other park visitors/etc. out).

Writing stuff down to energetically remove it from my brain, with any luck, then burning it safely in a fire pit/fireplace/fireproof bowl/etc. helps, too.

Hula hooping...for energy release, a few laughs when I totally screw up, for the amazement that I still can't believe I can actually do it - which distracts me from being pissed off, and because I get to throw it and stuff.

Staying mindful that I don't consume or invest energy in any product that implants even more adrenaline and who knows what else into my system from other beings. I have enough of my own DNA salad/hazards/residual effects to tend to without complicating it even more.

Heading out to a favorite nature spot and spilling my guts to a tree helps lighten the load, too. They're great listeners...and huggers. lol

Smudging myself and my living space with sage to help get rid of all of that energy residue from all those damn feelings.

If I try to suppress rather than address, I end up down deep in the depressive ditch and many old ills start to resurface, like the nervous stomach, more pain, headaches, etc. It still fascinates me to see how quickly and severely it all can manifest as physical symptoms.

 

[Freida]

I asked this question over on the supporter thread a bit ago and got some great suggestions. My biggest concern is that I don't feel anger now - and when I finally do it will explode my brain on all my supporters. I really wanted to get some feedback on how to avoid that. They had some really good suggestions - the one I really liked was breaking plates. Supporters what do I do when I get angry

 

[ILoveLife]

I asked this question over on the supporter thread

Yeah I replied to it too. :)
I had forgotten about that, funny how it works :laugh:

 

[Freida]

Its just another example of how great minds think alike!!! LOL:):):chicken:

 

[T2L]

I'm struggling with rage as well. I've blocked emotions for so long, I'm just learning to feel. Unfortunately, it all comes in waves of rage at once and floods me. I keep emotions inside and I used to implode and take it out on myself. Right now I'm trying to stop the self-harming behaviors and substances and deal with the rage. I suppose it's good I'm finally feeling (though it's painful), but I don't know what to *do* with it now. I don't release it on others, I'm not releasing it on myself or avoiding it, so it just kind of sits there and I feel stuck. If I can't express it, what do I do? Eventually the anger dissolves and gets locked back in. It never gets resolved, just ignored again since that's my natural go to.

 

[Margaret Victoria]

I'm not mad about the term "need to feel it"'... like, that's 100% my shit...
Most of the people who've...

Thanks so much for the tips you just offered! I have pretty much stopped worrying about using the f*ck word around people. I still try to repress it around young kids, but not many others. It’s the best relief I get from rage. Not to be political, but I did just tell my roommate that if I ever run into Donald Trump, I will likely physically attack him for his own sexual abuse and assaults on women, as well as for his hiring Bill Shine, who shielded Roger Ailes for all those years. I read somewhere that Shine is a good person for Communications Director for someone who lies and sexually assaults women! I love the #MeToo movement, but it does trigger my rage every time I hear something about assault.

What I no longer do is avoid or ignore. For the longest time, I felt anger or rage instead of many other f...

I thought of working at a glass recycling center, where the glass has to be broken!!

 

[katz]

Morning guys.

So, there's this intense anger at pretty much everything that happened to me that I bottle...

I throw rocks out into a lake or pond. Tell the "rock" that your angry - then throw it. Let the rock be your anger - then get rid of it. Throw as far as you can so you get the most anger out that you can, each time.

 

[Freida]

I throw rocks out into a lake or pond. T

that's brilliant!!!

 

[ILoveLife]

Rig the safety nets and harnesses before flying the trapeze.

Soooo... Great thought but it's out the window.
Exploded at my neighbor. Not proud of it today.
Instead of free falling, I'm considering a boxing analogy.
I'm already in the ring, getting my ass kicked right now. So I need to retreat a bit, let it throw punches in the void, and fight back with momentum lol

Best suggestion I can think of right now was @Swift's containment.
I'm doing the creative outlets and it's somewhat helpful at keeping me occupied.
I tried the feel it method and it's failing epically because there is little containment.
I'm not a very happy or pleasant person right now and I dislike this feeling.

Weird side effect is eating my ass off for the past two days.

Lack of sleep not helping.
:confused::confused:

 

[Innordinate]

I need some kind of adrenaline rush to release my anger usually. It's the best thing I've found, but not always doable. So, working on directing the rage into my breathing - it's not really containment but when I'm feeling that intense anger I force myself to answer where it's coming from, if it's actually anger I'm feeling or if it's masking a different feeling, then can I do anything about that situation and try to discern if it's appropriate to be angry about.
I think CBT helped me in this regard. Mostly to recognize that the anger I feel isn't actually anger.
Also, I've had a few t's tell me that intense daily physical activity helps. Like, punching bag work or intense gym work out. I also tried archery, shooting arrows at targets helped release some of the violent energy I seem to store unlimited amounts of.
Oh - and video games where I get to destroy things. Nothing like taking out a few virtual bad guys or a dragon or two to appease my anger. :)

 

[MrMoonlight]

I recently heard of freezing styrofoam cups of water so that in these angry moments you can throw one or two or twelve against a brick wall or whatever. It's minimal pickup of the foam and it sounds like shattering glass when thrown hard enough.

 

[LuckiLee]

Batting cages. Yard work. Washing floors (I hate doing it so it makes me more pissed off ;) ) . J seems to like yelling at me, you could try that. Lol. Swimming. And like @katz said, throwing rocks in a lake. I also like cooking. It's calming (to me) and makes you concentrate. I'm impressed you're looking for ideas. You're ahead of the game! XO