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The journey begins ... or continues ... articulating the rollercoaster that is my life

So my was-estranged son came up. He seems to fully forgive me for leaving and wants to reconcile. He's on a transitional path of transcendance and healing but is struggling with a heavy Xanax dependancy at the moment. He says he's "erratic" and is leaving the area and returning to Victoria soon. He's coming back tomorrow.
 
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I hide away here because of epic shame and as a result of terrifically shocking, negligent and horrid treatment. People have responded to my being, in ways that I don't have the energy to address. Or should I say haven't responded, way too much. It's like I've always been the little match girl, looking through the window at people eating, drinking and being together and I'm out in the snow, freezing and having no one, for most of my life. Now I have my man and I'm too traumatized by the cold to go outside anymore. I need his warmth because I'm still thawing out. No one else gives me any security. I'm so lucky that the government throws some pennies into my cup because otherwise I'd starve. How does one stop being the little match girl who nearly froze to death but didn't? I burnt my matches to keep warm and, at the last match, my beloved found me and took me home to a warm house and warmed me up. Now I'm addicted to his warmth and there's no where else that's warm or home, than him. I want my children to feel that warmth, so they never have to be the little match girl. I don't think they will, they've never been homeless and completely alone in the world like I was as a girl and as a child. My parents chilled me to the bone. My ex stuck me in a blizzard and refused to let me inside, ever. He made me so cold, when I finally escaped, in desperate survival mode, my insides were, literally, chronically, cold! My torso was cold on the inside for months, I'm not even exaggerating! Luckily my guy pulled me through. He was frightened but kind. If it wasn't for him, I would be dead and long gone by now.
The memory of chronic frozeness and being left out in the cold, lingers and still chills me, still. I need his body heat to keep me from freezing again. I need the shield of his big man body to protect me from that long, long, life-threatening winter chill. He is the sun to my mountainous snowy ice winter, the warmth of spring and the deep thaw. The crystal clear ice-in-top-of-the-mountain-snow turns to delicious fresh, drinkable sprlng water, because of his love and care. I'm here, but for the grace of Him.
 
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Feeling more whole, for seeing my boy/man-child.
It was very emotional. He is a very wise young man, but, also someone who has suffered immensely. He's soooo beautiful! I was aching with guilt-feelings for allowing him to suffer so much and not being there for him. I wasn't strong enough to stand up to his dad and push through my terror and trauma from that man to be there for my beautiful, beloved son! I hate that I wasn't strong enough!

My son forgives me now, but we've lost 8 years! I never wanted to leave my children! Ever!

But he's wise and compassionate!

Things are getting better and I'm grateful. I've prayed and prayed that my children will all be ok and I think that my prayers are being answered.

He is struggling, but he's kind and wise, he takes after me ALOT. He's not like his dad at all, he's so much my son. Independent and a seeker like me. A deep questioner.

I'm proud to be his mum. I'm proud that I brought him into the world. And I'm so grateful he's come back to me!
 
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How beautiful and 'warm' your story is unfolding Mums. To have a wonderful, always present man in your life. That continues to be present for you as you heal.

Your awesome kids, returning, one by one, and you finding out how much you influenced their lives in such powerful and loving ways. That healing is happening all around you, and for you, and the depth of your love and gratitude comes out in each of your words you share here.

You, who were freezing, hungry and alone, has persevered thru unimaginable pain and turmoil, to be the woman you always were, to see yourself in a more full picture, surrounded by love and family.

I really wish I had known you at a different stage of my life. My life may have turned out very different than it is now. Because I would have had someone setting examples, and I would have had that powerful love example to follow.

Very happy for you Mums, for your loving and ever present man, your children being so much like you, and returning to a mom that never left them, not in her heart you didn't.

You are surrounded by miracles, and you know that on the deepest level. So very happy for you. And so proud that you never ever gave up or allowed anyone to destroy, that last part of yourself that has kept you alive and hopeful.


Thank you for allowing me to witness how someone's life can come together in love and compassion. Tender hugs Mums, and let the thawing continue.
 
How beautiful and 'warm' your story is unfolding Mums. To have a wonderful, always present man in your life. That continues to be present for you as you heal.

Your awesome kids, returning, one by one, and you finding out how much you influenced their lives in such powerful and loving ways. That healing is happening all around you, and for you, and the depth of your love and gratitude comes out in each of your words you share here.

You, who were freezing, hungry and alone, has persevered thru unimaginable pain and turmoil, to be the woman you always were, to see yourself in a more full picture, surrounded by love and family.

I really wish I had known you at a different stage of my life. My life may have turned out very different than it is now. Because I would have had someone setting examples, and I would have had that powerful love example to follow.

Very happy for you Mums, for your loving and ever present man, your children being so much like you, and returning to a mom that never left them, not in her heart you didn't.

You are surrounded by miracles, and you know that on the deepest level. So very happy for you. And so proud that you never ever gave up or allowed anyone to destroy, that last part of yourself that has kept you alive and hopeful.


Thank you for allowing me to witness how someone's life can come together in love and compassion. Tender hugs Mums, and let the thawing continue.

What a beautiful heartfelt response! Thank you so much @ladee!
Yes, I can hardly believe it. I'm still aching for the pain he is still in and that there is so much ground to cover yet. He is very idealistic, very much true to his extremely Sagittarian chart. He and I have both had our honesty used against us by his manipulative father. He is still not really clear on what a number his dad did on us, but has still expressed anger at his dad for the simple and obvious truth of the exploitation of me as a teen.
He is finally just expressing compassion for me and not the abuse his father taught him. Only twenty-two going on twenty-three, so his brain is still not fully developed.
Unfortunately, instead of involving me in his mental health crisises, he's just been diagnosed and medicated and I, honestly, don't think that was the best approach, but I was locked out for so long, by the father. Locked out and stigmatised as "the crazy one". I'm still coming back from that.
But yes, life is beautiful and the warmth in my heart is reflected and growing in my relationships. It has been an uphill climb, a very steep one, a treacherous one and now I'm resting, at my vantage point and enjoying the view. I'm very much a "my-personal-mountain" climber, metaphorically speaking.
I'm coming out of a deep, deep exhaustion, still pretty tired, but functional, in a quiet way, again.

So nice to have friends to share the journey with! Thank you @ladee! You give me so much, too! I love your warmth, honesty, wisdom and sharing! Everything happens in it's perfect timing, I guess, I don't really know, but that sounds nice and I've heard that. I like to have faith in that. It feels good.:-)
 
Whoops, didn't see that. Yes. That. Is. Amazing.

You are an awesome mum.
You are an awesome human @Swift! I feel kinda maternal towards you, sometimes. You are the age of my children. I would be super proud and wrap to have a daughter like you. I know things are very tough, at the moment and have been forever, but your brilliant and resourceful character shines through. I.hope we can meet IRL one day. If that doesn't freak you out too much.

And yes, I feel super lucky to have my loving, sexy man in my life.:-) So fortunate. So grateful.
 
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