EMDR With The Inner Child Rather Than The Adult?

[Snowflake]

True story. Otherwise you are just exacerbating the split.


I gave my inner child (one of them) a teddy bear to hold so she wasn't lonely and I made her a promise that I would include her in things that I thought would be fun for her. I found I needed a connection based on trust before I could bring her out to deal with the dark stuff.

It sounds like you are super frustrated, which generally shuts down inner child communiction. Is that possible?

Definately! I just feel like no one gets it.

 

[Wendell_R]

Do you do any non-verbal work? Like playing in a sand tray? Sharing toys? Playing with clay?

 

[Snowflake]

Do you do any non-verbal work? Like playing in a sand tray? Sharing toys? Playing with clay?

In therapy? Nope

In therapy? Nope

My therapist reminds me I’m an adult with an inner child. Not the reverse

 

[ILoveLife]

Do you trust your T?

 

[Snowflake]

Do you trust your T?

I do-

Do you trust your T?

I’m just so needy

 

[EveHarrington]

....EMDR on an inner child could just as easily terrorize her.

 

[Snowflake]

....EMDR on an inner child could just as easily terrorize her.

I think my therapist is also worried about this. I’m just trying to think of ideas to help the inner child be heard.

 

[EveHarrington]

Are you regularly asking her what she needs and giving her what she asks for?

 

[Snowflake]

Are you regularly asking her what she needs and giving her what she asks for?

No-I can’t connect nor feel close to her or her me.

I feel like the child unable to connect with the adult me