Anger

[Snowflake]

What part of your PTSD (trauma) (past or present) makes you angry?

 

[Kubash16]

All of it lol. No, really, my anger is a little backwards I guess. I know I should be angry at my main abuser and about some of the more significant traumas and I am a little bit (or just haven’t been really able to tap into it yet). But my biggest anger struggle is with people who were supposed to be there/see me/help me, and chose to do nothing but get angry at me. I’m super struggling with that right now. The lack of support.

 

[Snowflake]

All of it lol. No, really, my anger is a little backwards I guess. I know I should be angry at my main abuser and about some of the more significant traumas and I am a little bit (or just haven’t been really able to tap into it yet). But my biggest anger struggle is with people who were supposed to be there/see me/help me, and chose to do nothing but get angry at me. I’m super struggling with that right now. The lack of support.

I’m sorry. I struggle with lack of support too. While my therapist is supportive she can’t be with me 24/7

 

[Kubash16]

I’m sorry. I struggle with lack of support too. While my therapist is supportive she can’t be with me 24/7

:hug: I’m sorry. Unfortunately, at this stage in our life we have to be the ones to support/rescue/protect ourselves. The way I look at it is yes she can’t be there 24/7 but that’s a good thing. If she were, the perfect bubble of who she is would burst, she would burn out really fast, and she would be too close to situations and would lose sight of how to help you.

I don’t really have a lack of support now. I built myself a support system because the family that should have a decade ago didn’t. Definitely some serious bitterness to a lot of family.

 

[Kubash16]

Are you working to build a support system for yourself?

 

[EveHarrington]

People who wrongly assume things about me and my disorder. People who don’t even try to understand.

 

[Snowflake]

Are you working to build a support system for yourself?

I don’t know how

People who wrongly assume things about me and my disorder. People who don’t even try to understand.

Exactly

 

[Kubash16]

I don’t know how

So you have your T. She’s an awesome source, but she can’t be the only thing. Do you have any significant relationships (best friend, spouse, close family)? Have you considered joining group therapy? You also have us, we aren’t there with you of course, but this can be a great source of validation, advice, and just sitting with you in your pain. Have you considered joining any classes (such as yoga)?

 

[Snowflake]

So you have your T. She’s an awesome source, but she can’t be the only thing. Do you have any significant relationships (best friend, spouse, close family)? Have you considered joining group therapy? You also have us, we aren’t there with you of course, but this can be a great source of validation, advice, and just sitting with you in your pain. Have you considered joining any classes (such as yoga)?

I have no friends really or scared to have friends, no support group in area (I’m trying and my therapist is trying to find one), my husband hates I’m in therapy and wants no part in it. I was a part of swim but I’m lacking motivation and energy to do anything with depression. Starting Tai Chi in February.

 

[Kubash16]

The tai chi will be really good. Are there any “potential” friends or family that T could work with you on fostering more of a relationship with?

Also, about the hubby. I would really look at why he isn’t being supportive and remind yourself that you deserve support.

 

[Snowflake]

The tai chi will be really good. Are there any “potential” friends or family that T could work with you on fostering more of a relationship with?

Also, about the hubby. I would really look at why he isn’t being supportive and remind yourself that you deserve support.

Thank you we are working on this a lot in therapy. She knows I need support and she knows that there isn’t a lot available. I wish there was a sponsor for me like AAA meetings have for people.

My husband is narcissistic and doesn’t not want to hear about my past or my present.

 

[Kubash16]

So if you were to drop a negative source, would that allow you to feel more confidence in yourself to work on building friendships?