General Christopher Robin (the Disney Movie) and feeling suicidal

[Never_falter2]

Oh, that’s pretty sh*tty. Is there something we can do for you?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Nah, you didn’t offend me @Never_falter2. I’m not bothered by his eating habits or gut problems... like @LuckiLee says, they are pretty “normal” PTSD issues. He also had a crush injury to his digestive tract from a blast concussion and hasn’t been 100% since. As long as his overall health isn’t suffering and he has some calories in him instead of nothing, I’m content.

It is just that I am afraid of being judged by people who do not understand.

f*ck those people right in the ear. If they’re judging strangers who are struggling, then they’re the ones who need to ashamed of themselves, not you guys. They need a little compassion. Anybody who judges my vet can kiss the fattest part of my ass, and I’ll tell ‘em so to their face. I’m rude like that though ?

 

[Never_falter2]

So I have talked to a number of people and they have told me the most important thing is that he feels loved and respected... the rest will follow... everybody seems to think so... so not push him to talk to me, to eat...however I still haven’t called he Ptsd helpline but I am happy others see it like this and I think they are right.

 

[Sweetpea76]

It’s a scary and hard step to let go and stop trying to help. I’m a pretty proactive person and it went against a lot of my nature to do it as well. I’d love nothing more than to take charge when he is struggling and take care of him... but that’s not going to really help him in the long run. Part of his healing process is learning to cope and manage all this stuff he’s going through. If I did it all for him, I’d be taking that away from him.

Taking care of MYSELF does help him though. He sees that I am healthy and happy, and he doesn’t worry that “he is bringing me down.” That is less stress for him, because I know he loves me and wants to make sure I’m taken care of, even if he can’t always do it himself. If calling the helpline will help you, I’d say it’s still a great idea.

 

[Tinyflame]

. They need a little compassion. Anybody who judges my vet can kiss the fattest part of my ass, and I’ll tell ‘em so to their face. I’m rude like that though ?

OMG, I had to say, this is so sweet!!! ^^^ I love that! Bravo to your courage! :):laugh::inlove: He is so lucky!!! :)

(And that was so funny I'm glad I wasn't drinking coffee!! I would like a T-shirt like that :laugh: )

 

[Freida]

Oh, that’s pretty sh*tty. Is there something we can do for you?

thank you for the offer but no..... It's just something I have to work thru. That's the hard part I think for supporters. you want to help but you cant

Taking care of MYSELF does help him though. He sees that I am healthy and happy, and he doesn’t worry that “he is bringing me down.”

This! I check in with hubby to let him know I'm alive. If I didn't think he could handle me being gone, or was upset about not being able to help me I'd be gone. I can't take that kind of pressure right now

 

[Never_falter2]

He is not really isolating. Just cannot talk about this topic.

Vet has told me the single most important thing for him is that our life are free from worry and care. Like the biggest favour we can do him - live a worry free life... and I think sometimes when he is not feeling great he is hiding it so we do not worry.
For example with going places or with having nightmares. He pretends that’s okay he is not going certain places or that he is having nightmares... but I think that this is not his real opinion because sometimes he complains a bit about this and then you see how he really feels about this... and he just wants to protect you.

So on the one hand: me living carefree live is exactly what he wants... but otoh hand... does he need to talk about a nightmare... or is it better for him I do not notice?

So I am giving him what he wants, right? But is he strong enough to cope and are his coping mechanism okay? BTW has any of you experiences with relentless - I mean that drink which is full of taurine, sugar and caffeine - as a coping mechanism? ??? I googled relentless and found out it soon might not be sold anymore on the German market.

People have told me what he probably needs most is to feel loved. So I guess I should try to nanny him less.

 

[Sweetpea76]

does he need to talk about a nightmare... or is it better for him I do not notice?

I’d say not to worry about it unless he wants to talk to you about it. Nightmares are something he is probably working through in therapy. He may also cope with them quietly on his own most of the time. He probably has way more nightmares than the ones you know of, honestly. I never know my vet is having one unless he makes noise in his sleep or tells me. He doesn’t always.

He sounds like he wants you guys to be happy, so he is trying to shield you from his PTSD symptoms. That is probably stressful for him... even if he is doing that to himself. Maybe if you can be OK with letting go of the worry, it will lift some of the pressure he is putting on himself.

 

[Freida]

He sounds like he wants you guys to be happy, so he is trying to shield you from his PTSD symptoms. That is probably stressful for him... even if he is doing that to himself. Maybe if you can be OK with letting go of the worry, it will lift some of the pressure he is putting on himself.

yes. this.

 

[Never_falter2]

I am trying hard not to worry... but unfortunately it became my second nature to worry about things. I must always keep in my mind that Vet is a competent human being, he is not broken just a bit stressed and typically he knows what he is doing... typically... but then as we just found out men are weird ?... dunno... maybe I must trust him more... but then sometimes he does stupid things... on the other hand often he does smart things... so most likely he knows how to cope with stuff.

 

[Freida]

I am trying hard not to worry...

If I could get one thing thru my thick head it would be this ^^^. Supporters worry. I can say mine don't need to, and I can say I would feel the same way if I was supporting someone else.
But. Nope. When I'm in a mood I totally forget that.

 

[Never_falter2]

Yeah... we always worry a little. We may be wrong but we always worry if you can cope with all of that stuff on your own. At least me. But then of course he is a big boy and my protector, know what I mean?