Does it help to remind yourself how frightening your path must be to a lot of people, and how that can scare people away?
Hmmm. That's a good question. Mostly because I have no idea how to answer it :laugh: which I think is because I've got different parts having very different answers, and no major consensus.
I will take this to T, when we get back to having physical T sessions and work through it there.
And thank you for the hugs :hug:
Honestly I think you give them too much credit calling them friends. I would be feeling just the same if this happened to me too. It's not friend behaviour at all.
when you are fully recovered you may have to re-assess your 'fair-weather' friends and the relationship you have with them.
Yes, you are right.
I know I would say exactly the same to a friend.. exactly the same to you if you posted about similar, here.
It worries me, that I'm not (this is probably super subjective, but also sort of true) very good at making friends IRL, that if I take a proper look and reconsider these quote unquote friends, I might be left with like... One? Two? None? I don't know, it makes me nervous.
Probably another thing I should take to T :)
As tempting as it is to allow their ignorance to temper your joy, your recovery and your 'gonna get well and be fabulous' mindset. Don't let that happen. Rise above it. Don't get down or discouraged through the ignorance of others. You are way too good for that.
Keep ploughing on through each and every challenge. In the end you have managed extremely well through some terribly tough times without them so you can manage.
Ooof, you got me good -- right in the feels, and when a pep talk of sorts is extremely timely.
As always,, so grateful -- thank you b. Will do my best to keep on keeping on.
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Righto team, we (and I say we, because this is a journey that by the support of you all I have not had to walk alone) we have made it to
one month post-op!! *background cheers*
and 4 weeks post-op, simultaneously, thanks to the magic of a non-leap year February.
Very excited to be at one month post-op, and feeling -- physically, and mentally (despite my stumbles of the last few days), the way that I am.
I spoke to my GP on the phone this morning; our first chat since I left hospital.
On my pain team's advice, if I made it to 2 weeks at home (basically now) feeling like my pain was being well managed, I could drop my midday 300mg gabapentin.
Ran this by my GP on the phone, and she was happy with it too, so today starts the (slow and measured) next level of pain med reduction! (Heavy pain med reduction was completed over my two weeks in hospital).
GP is going to ring me on Monday morning, to check in with how my pain has been over the weekend with the reduced gabapentin.
Then I assume that if all remains steady, I'll stay on that med plan for some while, before GP and I then agree to go down another step. My pain med management has essentially been turned over to her now; she has my discharge summary, all xrays from hospital, etc. And the pain team just advised the first step down to give direction I suppose, as my pain care (very thankfully) does not need specialist help anymore.
Hope y'all are having a pleasant day/night in your corners of the world.
And thank you all again for your support, it means everything.
