Butterfly64
Silver Member
Hi all you lovely people 
I have been involved with a man for two years. The word relationship freaks him out, he loves intimacy but refuses to show it outsider the bedroom...because if he acts on it, in his world that equals relationship ( he is a regular “pretty woman”.. protecting himself from getting too involved) and he only has the energy to survive on a daily basis due to CPTSD and constant back pains. According to him, he has a problem feeling love....he knows that his desire for me is over the top....in that sende he is obsessed with me...but he feels numb and can’t say.... I love you. I know, it is stupid of me, but it svares the crap out of me, that he can’t feel love...but then again....what is love...it is simply a word that covers some emotions = friendship, desire, fascination, sexurity...and he definitely has all of those feelings for me.
I have read several threads in here regarding sufferes not being able to relationship, because it is hard enough as it is to survive....that it is impossible to handle expectations from a BF/GF....which is exactly why he wants to remain single.
Sorry....had to edit a few things and the 5 minutes ran out so...I have a few things to add;
I know that “love” is just a word that covers different emotions....so what is it that some of you do not feel when you say you do not feel love....even when you are involved with somebody? I really wan’t to understand this. When you feel numb....but still desire a specific person....what is it that you do not feel...regarding to love...hope I am making sense? but it is really hard for me to understand that he desires me like crazy...and says he loves me more than a friend...but can’t distinguish between loving me more than a friend and a GF....when love really isn’t more than desire, friendship and so forth.
And to supporters...if you are involved with a sufferer who has a hard time saying I love you or a hard time feeling love....how do you cope with this?
I have been involved with a man for two years. The word relationship freaks him out, he loves intimacy but refuses to show it outsider the bedroom...because if he acts on it, in his world that equals relationship ( he is a regular “pretty woman”.. protecting himself from getting too involved) and he only has the energy to survive on a daily basis due to CPTSD and constant back pains. According to him, he has a problem feeling love....he knows that his desire for me is over the top....in that sende he is obsessed with me...but he feels numb and can’t say.... I love you. I know, it is stupid of me, but it svares the crap out of me, that he can’t feel love...but then again....what is love...it is simply a word that covers some emotions = friendship, desire, fascination, sexurity...and he definitely has all of those feelings for me.
I have read several threads in here regarding sufferes not being able to relationship, because it is hard enough as it is to survive....that it is impossible to handle expectations from a BF/GF....which is exactly why he wants to remain single.
Sorry....had to edit a few things and the 5 minutes ran out so...I have a few things to add;
I know that “love” is just a word that covers different emotions....so what is it that some of you do not feel when you say you do not feel love....even when you are involved with somebody? I really wan’t to understand this. When you feel numb....but still desire a specific person....what is it that you do not feel...regarding to love...hope I am making sense? but it is really hard for me to understand that he desires me like crazy...and says he loves me more than a friend...but can’t distinguish between loving me more than a friend and a GF....when love really isn’t more than desire, friendship and so forth.
And to supporters...if you are involved with a sufferer who has a hard time saying I love you or a hard time feeling love....how do you cope with this?
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