Freida
MyPTSD Pro
Not sure if this goes in avoidance, cognitive distortions or trauma so I'll just stick it here for now. :)
I know it's just part of the PTSD process, but I got to wondering today - why is it so important that we take the blame for what was done to us? I see it over and over in the forums, and anyone who spends 5 minutes in my diary knows I'm a master of it.
But why?
What does it accomplish for us? I know that at the time of trauma it can be what keeps us alive, or allows us to make sense of what is happening or to just keep putting one foot in front of the other and move forward. But then what? Why is it so ingrained in us that we have to continue to hold on to it long after the trauma is over? What would happen if we let go of the blame or put it where it actually belongs - on the people who landed us here? And does that last sentence make anyone else feel panicky?
Any brilliant ideas out there?
I know it's just part of the PTSD process, but I got to wondering today - why is it so important that we take the blame for what was done to us? I see it over and over in the forums, and anyone who spends 5 minutes in my diary knows I'm a master of it.
But why?
What does it accomplish for us? I know that at the time of trauma it can be what keeps us alive, or allows us to make sense of what is happening or to just keep putting one foot in front of the other and move forward. But then what? Why is it so ingrained in us that we have to continue to hold on to it long after the trauma is over? What would happen if we let go of the blame or put it where it actually belongs - on the people who landed us here? And does that last sentence make anyone else feel panicky?
Any brilliant ideas out there?