Feeling Kind of Alone...

[reallydown]

Batgrill....not yetm...

 

[batgirl]

Well take your time... don't be like me and post too much at once and then get all upset...

Anyways I hope you are feeling somewhat better now. Take care of yourself.

 

[reallydown]

Thanks Batgirl, appreciate it

 

[reallydown]

May I ask the powers that be to please lock this thread as it has come to my attention that it is part of a disturbing trend--I shall certainly not wish to distrurb anyone. Please excuse the transgression.

RD

 

[batgirl]

Hmm... RD I really don't think that new thread about a disturbing trend was meant to point the finger at anyone in particular.

 

[anthony]

RD, that post has nothing to do with this thread actually, especially considering I have not read this thread... or atleast if I posted in it, not afterwards, but I will make a point of it now.

People have to stop taking things so personal, because PTSD is not personal, its a killer.

 

[anthony]

Oh, there ya go, I did post in it on the first page. RD, this has got nothing to do with you as an individual, that thread has got to do with many people that upon this forum that over the last month or two are looking for something that doesn't exist. If you take this stuff personal, you most likely don't want to discuss trauma with me too much then, because I pretty much get in a persons face, not sit around and twiddle my thumbs tip toeing around them.

Please stop thinking so personal.

 

[becvan]

RD, enough is enough. It's time to get off your arse and start dealing with your symptoms rather than looking for pity or sympathy. We all end up dealing with the same symptoms from the same cause; PTSD. That thread was an informational thread for the benefit of all our members, not just one person. Every thread and post you have started in this forum has been all about your symptoms yet you refuse to see that we all deal with the same thing and that there are answers if you are willing to begin the healing process. So far, you haven't even made an attempt to begin healing, look for options or hear anyone out, if it isn't what you want to hear. No one here is going to hold your hand and tell you exactly what you want to hear. A) we all have PTSD and are too blunt for that B) we all want to heal which is why we are here. This is your kick to your arse. Get off your pity pot and start considering doing something about your situation rather than continuing like this. You are not alone, because you have us, and you know it. We can and do understand since we deal with the same issue as you; PTSD. You are alienating yourself from us, not the other way around. Cut it out.

Bec

 

[batgirl]

RD, I do understand taking things personally, as I do that myself. Any time there's some problem or complaint, on the internet here or in 'real' life, my automatic reaction is, it's either my fault, a punishment for something I've done in the past, or involves me in some other insidious way. It gives me one more opportunity to blame myself for everything, and feel guilty because I'm a bad person. But I've learned to fight that feeling, because quite frankly, as much as I might want to be the centre of the universe, I'm not.

 

[anthony]

I totally agree with Bec... there is no room for self sympathy if you want to heal PTSD. To beat PTSD you must become assertive, you must become confident, which means no room to sit and cry "poor me"... its an ineffective negative method in which only drags a person further down. Basically, if you are not ready to heal RD, then your just not ready, and there is nothing wrong with that, but I don't make any quarms that I myself will not provide much of my time to those who are not interested in helping themselves or healing, because that is the aim of the forum after all, to get better, not suck sympathy from others. There are people here who really want to heal, and are healing, there are people that want knowledge, they want to throw reasoning around and see what comes out for them, all of which does not involve self sympathy.

As bec said, that thread is a general thread I posted about a trend that is occurring, and it is disturbing to watch people put themselves down the shit tube, and I WILL do my best in order to keep people going in the right direction, not known negative directions. Sure, if someone is adement that they must explore that area, then say so, and I am more than happy to support someone walking into a negative corner, because that is how we learn, but I won't provide sympathy for doing so.

I think people confuse the aim of this forum. We are not a support sympathy forum, far from it. We support and help those that WANT to help themselves. If you don't want to help yourself, then you will certainly not get much support here, near guaranteed actually.

 

[Josh77]

anthony,
You and Bec are totally correct!! I, too, was starting to fall into the same negative direction by dragging my feet (out of fear of more pain) with the next step in my healing process, but after reading this thread (and others), i have realized that i was stuck and posting threads about the same topic while at the same time not doing what was suggested for me to do to move on... well, i've gotten past that and now have completed that step and i actually feel much better now.
But, i must also point out that it is very easy to fall into self-pity MODE! Sometimes people need to be told bluntly what they are doing wrong or what they NEED to do (as in my case).

 

[becvan]

Hehe, hence our blunt posts eh? :rofl:

Bec