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New relationship; new pressures.

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keystonegirl

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I wish I could just be in a relationship without all the attendant issues that come with it. Specifically, jealousy. He says he's not jealous but if I talk to other men in chat rooms he starts to become somewhat angry. These men are friends of mine I've known for quite some time. Most are married and when I chat with them, their wives join in as well. They are also friends of mine. I don't chat in private mode but always in the public room where everyone can see what I am typing. It's disconcerting to me that I now have to deal with what I'm experiencing and with my ptsd becoming active, me getting angry at myself and other people, and berating myself over all of it. Now I have to add a jealous boyfriend. I'm not sure if this is a "red flag" issue or not. I don't want to overreact to this. I know I'm rather sensitive at the moment and I don't want to seem to be out of control when we are together. But it has become harder to keep myself under control and not lash out at him. The last thing I need in my life is someone to trigger my ptsd even more than it is right now. If you have some advice for me I'll certainly entertain whatever is posted. Thank you for listening to me. 😲
 
These men are friends of mine I've known for quite some time. Most are married and when I chat with them, their wives join in as well. They are also friends of mine. I don't chat in private mode but always in the public room where everyone can see what I am typing.
All of these justifications mean to me that you’re buying into the jealousy games. My ex was so jealous that nothing made him comfortable. I tried all the explanations, like your laundry list. It was exhausting trying to be perfectly “safe” for him.

I’m sorry you’re in it. It’s up to you how much you’re willing to tolerate.
 
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