Darrel Hammond About Being Abused - “The worst crime is being expected not to tell.”

[Jewell]

Darrel Hammond was on SNL for 14 years
Has CPTSD from physical and emotional abuse from parents
He says about the abuse “The worst crime is being expected not to tell.”
I can relate to this !!!

 

[dharmaBum]

I've been looking to connect with some folks on this topic: the coercive control exerted to keep victims (especially children) from disclosing abuse. Especially when both the abuse and the control go on for years. It's definitely something I've experienced and I feel super-confused about it still, especially as I am actively working to find a public voice on these matters for self-advocacy primarily, but maybe advocacy in the greater community as well. But even finding a private voice has been hugely challenging. Much rather not tell people what my abuse experiences were for various reasons, but it turns out that sharing that information with people who love and care about/for you can help improve your life.

 

[Jewell]

I've been looking to connect with some folks on this topic: the coercive control exerted to keep victims (especially children) from disclosing abuse. Especially when both the abuse and the control go on for years. It's definitely something I've experienced and I feel super-confused about it still, especially as I am actively working to find a public voice on these matters for self-advocacy primarily, but maybe advocacy in the greater community as well. But even finding a private voice has been hugely challenging. Much rather not tell people what my abuse experiences were for various reasons, but it turns out that sharing that information with people who love and care about/for you can help improve your life.

I tell all details to my therapist

 

[Dark.Green.Feathers]

I've been looking to connect with some folks on this topic: the coercive control exerted to keep victims (especially children) from disclosing abuse. Especially when both the abuse and the control go on for years. It's definitely something I've experienced and I feel super-confused about it still, especially as I am actively working to find a public voice on these matters for self-advocacy primarily, but maybe advocacy in the greater community as well. But even finding a private voice has been hugely challenging. Much rather not tell people what my abuse experiences were for various reasons, but it turns out that sharing that information with people who love and care about/for you can help improve your life.

I did not tell anyone close to me (or anyone). They eventually found out but even after that they don't know very much because I feel the same as this:

Much rather not tell people what my abuse experiences were for various reasons

But it helped me when they found out. And it helped me to share here.
I think one of the smaller reasons that makes it unappealing to me now it's over is that I cry when I start sharing.
If I let my close people know sooner I would've been away from the abuse sooner, but that's the control aspect.