Internet Dating For Ptsd Dummies

[mamachick]

Gloria, if you go back to on line dating, are you going to add to your requirements-2 testicles only and verification required.

 

[Gloria]

This is the help I need. My friends look at the profiles and can instantly see the liars. Me, on the other hand don't get it. I've been told so many times when I met guys that unless I met them on line, I would never have given them the time of day (because they think I am attractive???) Well, all I have to say is that when I put my profile out there, I am a target for any married man, liar, pervert or serial killer to manipulate. I keep my profile on but haven't checked it for weeks.

 

[Sqweak]

Well if you really think about it Gloria we are all susceptible to all of those things dating online, dating friends of friends or just walking down the street really. I've had my fair share of crazies and liars it's having the ability to put your foot down that protects you from letting these people get any closer then your inbox. It takes knowing your cue to walk away to keep you safe, I think we all have problems with this from time to time I know I do. <3

 

[njray]

Gloria,
Please go to your local college and find where the young men hang out and tell them your stories and I suspect your truths (I am synicle i must admit) If you prevent one kid from ending up like me you will have really done a good thing for the male species.

I should never have had sex without a condemn EVER!!!!!!! and I should have believed that woman will trap men with there bodies for lifestyle.

 

[ProductOfSociety]

I met my husband over Myspace. He messaged me and we just hit it off. We chatted for a while online and it wasn't long before we met in person. It made it easier knowing he only knew one person that I knew, and I didn't even know her that well.Within the first few dates I felt confident enough to share my past with him. I wanted him to know what he was getting himself into. I wanted him to know that I was different and that it may cause issues in the future, but most of all I wanted him to understand me. He handled it well. It was nice. Almost 3 years later and we are still going strong.

Just wanted to share my experience~

However I did also meet 2 of my exes before him on myspace as well.
I suppose everyone in the online world isn't a gem, haha

 

[njray]

I am an arss and I cannot believe I was not corrected. I want to clarify both woman AND men will trap there mates with their bodies for a greater lifestyle. As well I hope men always use condom's and woman do not let men with in ten feet of of them unless they do.

I stand self corrected MY bad. Bad Ray sit .........downnnnnnnnnn ..stay oooppss wrong post for that last part.

<Edited by Amethist. Please follow forum rules of posting Njray. i.e. capitalize your I's and use correct punctuation, not dots.>

 

[anthony]

People put down prostitutes. I don't judge them. How many women have married men for money and security? How many of my girlfriends will sleep with a guy if they them to Red Lobster for dinner? They are doing it for $40???

Yep... exactly. Sex is a currency IMO. How many 60 year old rich celebrities or CEO's do you see with a 20 something hanging off their arm? They aren't there for love... if that money stopped, they would be gone. Very rarely, sure... but 99% of the time, those women are giving sex for money.

I think that providing its mutual, then I agree, prostitution of any form is acceptable. Its consenting sex, regardless whether there are other exchanges outside of the sex itself.

 

[mamachick]

We are all bartering something. If we dont get something out of a relationship, we usually leave. That is with all relationships-something makes us feel good or we would not continue.

Why are so many young men wanting older women these days?. I have to say, I am 52 and I get more date offers from men in their late twenties/early thirties than any other age. I know-cougars-I dont accept. That would be very weird to me. But I am amazed at this trend.

 

[Gloria]

There is a really good book and I don't remember the exact name of the author but it's called something like - The Ten Biggest Mistakes Women Make. One of them is trapping a man by getting pregnant. But men and women are just as devious. When you dating you suck in your belly and try to appear as attractive as possible. It's a biological thing. Look at the peacock's bright feathers and prancing. I've read a lot of books on socio-biology. Women are genetically coded to find the best provider so the children survive. Men want the most anatomically correct and healthy looking women to provide good genes. Hey you guys think you like boobs because they are cool? Well, they are pretty awesome but primitive men preferred women with adequate breast tissue to nurse their children. And did you know that the human species is one of the rare (if not only) species that is fertile when not bleeding? Why? The theory is that early cave women knew that if they had sex, very often since they had not evolved the wider hips, they would die in child birth so the ones who survived and passed down the genes were the ones smart enough not to get pregnant too early. Cave men would mate a 10 year old girl because their life expectancy was very short and they reproduced early.

After reading all this, do you wonder why I can't find a man to date. I remind myself of Spencer on Criminal Minds. I go of this tangent of information because I'm such a geek.

So I have three men that want to date me - my old flame who is still married, some very educated, rich and old guy who thinks I am very attractive and then my drinking, smoking friend who is coming over this weekend to do ANYTHING I want around my farm if it will give him a chance to get in my pants. Well, I felt like such a whore that I busted my butt power-washing, fixing, painting, sawing down trees so the only thing I need him to do is install some doors. I've installed the doors in one of my homes and the results were that I sawed my thumb in half and had to have 25 stitches and the doors that I did put in had one inch gaps either on top or at the bottom (for ventillation???:cautious: I think I would rather walk the streets as a prostitute than install a door. Honestly, I get so angry!!! So this guy really likes me and has been a friend for years and he does think I'm beautiful. Biologically, that is why I think that men lose their near vision as they get older so they can't see the women that they are having sex with and it makes it easier on both the man and woman. (I'm just kidding! LOL:p)

I loved all the comments. Yes, we could meet crazies on the street. Yes, men and women marry for money. I know my ex married me for money. There is an epidemic of out of wedlock births in the U.S. I think people put more thought into choosing a new car than deciding to have a baby together.

Hugs everyone! To those who have found someone, be grateful!! For those who are looking, be careful!!!

 

[shadowchaser]

I think I may ise the two testicles rule on one of the sites I go to. I'll let you know how it works.

 

[shadowchaser]

Used the testicle rule. No activity on my profile in over a month and now everyone is looking. And non of them (so far) are trying to get under my skirt lol.

 

[Gloria]

Well, I took my ad off. Yesterday, I spent the day and night with a man that I've known for several years. He was hot for me. We had fun and laughed and I (like always took him out to eat, etc.) It's a pattern with me. I am very nice, don't drink, don't smoke, am very kind and rational. Men think I'm very sexy because I have big tatas and a nice bod.

When I took his picture yesterday, he told me that he needed a picture for the internet dating site and I told him that was not going to happen and that was very hurtful. Then this morning, he had told me that he wanted to cuddle me all night long - not one hug or cuddle. So I asked him about it and he said that there was no chemistry. He thinks I'm absolutle beautful, kind, nice and really good person but he doesn't feel chemistry. Okay so the last two women he was with cheated on him and then dumped him. Women on the internet want nothing to do with him because he drinks, smokes, is unemployed and still married after 5 years separation. He drives a truck that is all rusty and lives in a basement of someone's house. I have a master's degree, own a horse farm, my measurements are 38, 23, 34 and I'm toned and in shape - no smoking, no drinking. I'm really nice and vivacious. I'm crying my eyes out this morning. I don't know what to do. My ex used me. I paid for three expensive vacations. I was so nice and tolerant and he had no money and no social skills. I took him on a cruise and immediately he dumped me, used the pictures that I had taken of him for the internet site and I think he met someone.

I don't know what's wrong with me. You may think it's my PTSD but I don't display symptoms around people. This guy didn't even get a chance to see my symptoms. I feel so hurt and so depressed and and sad. It's this thing that I have. My parents didn't love me. Now I see horrible and unattractive women with men and they are loved. But for some reason I think there is something wrong with me that no one can love me except for my friends and my sons and my animals. What is wrong with me? A lot of my girlfriends don't get dates or have men chasing them. But they are looking someone to fix their problems. They never got an education, are in terrible physical shape, don't keep themselves attractive and don't do much of anything but I have my act together and no one wants me.