Internet Dating For Ptsd Dummies

[Sandra]

I can sure relate to that Ms Spock. I never felt loved by any of my family. And was always treated like an outcast. Which made me like I just didn't belong anywhere. I felt like a lost soul that had no one to turn to or anywhere to go.

 

[ms spock]

You speak the language and concepts of my [broken and tattered] heart Sandra.

You understand what it is to be myself at this precise moment and time.

Feeling I was never loved by any of my family is something that effects the code of my dna. (Apparently it literally does they have found)

I have been always treated like an outcast by my family.

I ALSO FEEL that I just didn't and don't belong anywhere.

I felt like a lost soul that had no one to turn to or anywhere to go. And at this time I am feeling
incapacitated by this not belonging and not having any one to turn to and it is so hard.

Yet there is also a loss of the tremendous tension inside of my self in acknowledging these truths.
I have been able to stop the comfort eating which was concerning me a lot.

ms spock

 

[Sandra]

It sure leaves oneself feeling so empty inside Ms Spock. and I can sure relate to that comment. As this is how I really feel. :(

 

[Sandra]

Surprising how much our tragedies etc have effected our love lives with dating and relationships.

 

[ms spock]

It sure leaves oneself feeling so empty inside Ms Spock. and I can sure relate to that comment. As this is how I really feel. :(

I do feel empty inside Sanda. I feel so lost. I feel so forlorn. I feel so what the hell do I do with all of this? But mostly I just feel lost and forlorn and abandoned and rootless and unconnected.

 

[ms spock]

Surprising how much our tragedies etc have effected our love lives with dating and relationships.

I think the relationships with your family of origin create patterns that, unless we do a lot of work, we repeat again and again and again. Because how we were treated as children trains us how we think we deserve to be treated as adults.

When you have been abused, abandoned, etc as a child means you didn't get to work out a whole lot of developmental phases as children so we are 41 and trying to work out our boundaries with other people, that a lot of other people got a chance to work out and learn at 5 years old. How much is enough and how much isn't enough and so on and so forth.

We are really behind the 8 ball.

ms spock

 

[Sandra]

I hear you loud and clear Ms Spock. It almost sounds like we had the same parents.

 

[Sandra]

When our parents never made us feel valued sure makes it much harder to deal with the world in everyway not just with relationships.

 

[ms spock]

With the bad economy, I have heard stories about people being out of work and instead of looking for a job, look for a meal ticket on the internet.

In Australia there is at least one guy that meets really needy women online moves in a week later and demands $2,000 to leave. It did happen to my ex's ex.

 

[ms spock]

I hear you loud and clear Ms Spock. It almost sounds like we had the same parents.

That enacted upon us the same level of sadism and viciousness. I was the sacrifice in my family.

I so relate to what you are typing.

Thanks for the validation and feedback.
ms spock

 

[Sandra]

That can be a problem with the internet. Anyone can be whatever they want behind the screen and no one would ever know.

 

[Sandra]

Big hugs you Ms Spock.