Beatrice Sandoval
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Hello all, I'm just basically here to try and get advice or support. I have an off again on again love of 1 1/2yrs bf whom I love but sometimes I don't if this is then end or maybe the biginning I'm so confused just trying to understand it all....really....:(
Is it me or am I overreacting...sometimes he's loving & I don't want it to end other times he's so distant even looks at me in discust. I love this man, even though he won't make us official & sometimes even acts as if I can walk away & he won't care. We stop talking for weeks or months sometimes then somehow reconnect & then it's back at stage one again.
He finally said he loved me but it was after I said it 1st and he said it low so I didn't make a big deal out of it. I will admitt he didn't sound sure of hiself when he said it though. He's older than me my 11yrs that part doesn't bother me at all cause I don't his age just him. He acts very secretive with me sometimes I can actually get him to tell me what his plans are but other than the he doesn't like to discuss his feelings. So far he has said he doesn't just want to be friends when I gave him that option just last week. He even gets a big smile when he runs into me on accident so thats a good thing right? Idk.
The thing that bothers me most is alot of times I can't get him to text or call me back, much less even answer my calls. He acts so sweet & very talkative with others but with me he's not so open...sometimes makes me feel like he doesn't want me around. I try my best not to nag him or ask to much questions but what am I supposed to do when he makes me feel so distant. He sometimes just stares at me as if he doesn't know what to say when I ask or have serious talks with him about how im feeling about "us". How do you know when enoughs, well enough?
He isn't going to ptsd therapy like he's supposed to but is seeing a dr about his sleeping problem. I know he's a very busy man with his job, school, and kids....but sometimes he just makes me feel like i'm a nobody in his life. *sigh I don't know what to do or think anymore.
Is it me or am I overreacting...sometimes he's loving & I don't want it to end other times he's so distant even looks at me in discust. I love this man, even though he won't make us official & sometimes even acts as if I can walk away & he won't care. We stop talking for weeks or months sometimes then somehow reconnect & then it's back at stage one again.
He finally said he loved me but it was after I said it 1st and he said it low so I didn't make a big deal out of it. I will admitt he didn't sound sure of hiself when he said it though. He's older than me my 11yrs that part doesn't bother me at all cause I don't his age just him. He acts very secretive with me sometimes I can actually get him to tell me what his plans are but other than the he doesn't like to discuss his feelings. So far he has said he doesn't just want to be friends when I gave him that option just last week. He even gets a big smile when he runs into me on accident so thats a good thing right? Idk.
The thing that bothers me most is alot of times I can't get him to text or call me back, much less even answer my calls. He acts so sweet & very talkative with others but with me he's not so open...sometimes makes me feel like he doesn't want me around. I try my best not to nag him or ask to much questions but what am I supposed to do when he makes me feel so distant. He sometimes just stares at me as if he doesn't know what to say when I ask or have serious talks with him about how im feeling about "us". How do you know when enoughs, well enough?
He isn't going to ptsd therapy like he's supposed to but is seeing a dr about his sleeping problem. I know he's a very busy man with his job, school, and kids....but sometimes he just makes me feel like i'm a nobody in his life. *sigh I don't know what to do or think anymore.
