The Inner Mouse Shares Cheese

[angel2write]

(((revelry)))

 

[maddog]

So many of us here were born into a family of rats, and yet we are not rats, we are mice... how can that be I wonder!

Let's all be thankful for the vagueries of genetics!!!

Maddog

 

[Froggie]

And sometimes I'm scared when other mice give me cheese, because I feel like it's not mine to take, and that I should give it away quickly to another, more deserving mouse. Sometimes I stress so much about the cheese that other mice give me that it goes off, goes bad, in the time I've taken worrying about it and not eating it.

That's exactly how I feel, thanks (((Maddog))) for finding the right words to how I feel.

 

[wife of]

Sometimes the mouse needs to administer some "hard cheese", for the sake of both parties!

 

[Kintsugi]

Wow, Angel, this post is so good and comprehensive! You should make a kids' book! Really!

This also heavily reminds me of when my rat met a hamster. We put a bunch of tasty seeds on the floor for them to share. My rat picked up one piece at a time and peacefully munched, while the hamster roved around stuffing all the food in its cheeks till they were dragging behind him. My rat pushed against his cheek pouches to get another piece of food, but the hamster went back to his cage and spat out all the seeds in a pile for himself. Naughty hamster!

I have met a lot of hamsters in my life, who take and take. When I see how bloated they are with excess, I ask for a little food too, but hamsters always take their hoard for themselves! No feeding the greedy cheeks of hamsters!

 

[revelry]

Wow, Angel, this post is so good and comprehensive! You should make a kids' book! Really!

Miss might be right... Maybe you should...:):cool: I don't know what your background is, but you might be able to team up with a Psyc proffessor around you and write books that can help abused kids from becoming co-depentdant, post tramatic, depressed, or addicts, etc, etc, etc (pick a diagnosis...)

I remember that it wasn't until I was in my later teens and I could actually understand my counselor, and what he was saying, that i realized that things were dyfunctional and toxic.

mmmmm.....I wonder where I'd be if someone would have talked with me sooner, in a language that I could understand??????

 

[Kintsugi]

Along the same line, or to the side of it I guess...

Thank you Angel for this delicious cheese for fodder.

 

[Meadowsweet]

Wow, Angel, this post is so good and comprehensive! You should make a kids' book! Really!

Totally agree. I think it would help a lot of kids fond those boundaries.

I hope its ok, but I'd like to offer another perspective on this. I've been in a position where I've taken cheese as its offered. But to me, being healthy is finding my own cheese.

So eventually I say to the cheese provider "Thankyou, but I don't need your cheese anymore, I can find my own," or "you've been so good sharing your cheese, now let me share some of mine with you."

Its only then that I realise my lovely cheese sharer is a dominator.

So the cheese sharer says "You must'nt eat your own cheese, it is bad cheese you must have mine" and eventually the cheese sharer will need to prove that people cannot be happy, strong, healthy or successful without taking his/her cheese.

Sometimes its fear of retribution or loss that brings the mouse back begging for cheese to pacify the need of the cheese sharer.

 

[Lionheart]

Sometimes, ya just gotta grill that cheese and say, "Sorry, I was hungry." *licks lips :roflmao:
other times ya just get sick of cheese and want chocolate instead.

....sorry I couldn't think of anything intelligent to say and I am sleep deprived. ;)

 

[Kintsugi]

Meadow, I agree with the other perspective. Mrs. Angel Mouse makes a good point about keeping some of her cheese for her family. Mice families should share their cheese freely; little mice don't usually have a lot of cheese, so I'm sure Mrs. Angel Mouse gives lots of her leftover cheese to her little mice.

Outside of mice families, mice can just be cheese sharing friends, but I have learned that friends always break cheese together. I have a mouse friend who takes lots of my cheese--think Gus from Cinderella--but down the line, he will always offer every scrap of his cheese to me when I am a sad, cheese-less mouse. I also have mouse friends who give me their cheese regularly, knowing I may need help. But I make note of the cheese, and I always give back whatever I am able to, as a thank-you for the cheese they shared.

See, in these cheese relationships, it's one-sided for a time, but the understanding is that the giving party will always receive back some cheese for their kindness, because that relationship means equal footing. Even if one mouse has more than the other all the time, the mouse with very little cheese can still break off a crumble here and there to share with its giving mouse friends.

Sometimes I meet a mouse who wants me to just take all its cheese and never give any back. They say, "Would you like some cheese?" and I may say, "Oh, how delicious. I'm getting more cheese tomorrow that we can also share."

A good mouse will usually accept sharing your cheese later. You may not have much, but you only need to share a little to show your appreciation for mouse friends.

If the mouse says, "No, no, keep your cheese. I just want you to have some of mine" and they are not a mouse you have a history of sharing freely with, there's a good chance they're a rat! And rats, like the witches of gingerbread houses, only want you to eat all their cheese toucan swallow to fix you right to eat.

Don't let the rats consume you. Share cheese like friends--mutually.

 

[sea]

I do a bad job at being a mouse. I don't have much cheese. I don't do good at taking it either. I think somewhere along the line you have to learn how to both. I don't think I did so I am more of an aimless paper-mouse. Paper-mouse cheese is not particularly tasty. Because paper-mouse is bad at giving and bad at taking it is sometimes confused with a rat.

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[Kintsugi]

I don't think this paper mouse knows how much cheese he offers to others. :(

If your time and compassion and interest in others is paper cheese, it's delicious paper.

Mmmmm...2D kindness...