Experiences With Sociopaths

[BloomInWinter]

(((((Lizio)))))

 

[Broken]

Thing is, now I am trying to set the boundaries it feels like I am being controlling and unreasonable. And he is doing his pathetic, poor, abandoned husband with a mental wife routine. He has no guilt.

I hate that he makes you feel controlling and unreasonable instead of assertive and unwilling to no longer take his crap. Isn't it amazing that people like him can make you feel their actual behavior? What I mean is that its really him that is controlling and unreasonable, not you.

It must have been hell living with him.

By being as aware as you are of his behavior, although it may not feel like it, makes you have the upper hand.

From all the research I've done on sociopaths, I believe that being in relationships with them can, because of the stress, cause health problems. It is like the body gives testimony of their treason.

I can only speak for myself, but I don't think I'm alone in being thankful that you are in our lives. You are an amazing person.

 

[anthony]

I won't repost what I wrote elsewhere, but people should read it, because there is simply too much confusion about sociopath and socipathic tendencies, which every single human being on the planet has, and will display some during the course of their life, none of which makes them a sociopath though.

[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/confused-by-supporters-hs-inconsistencies-is-it-deception.23168/#post-327855[/DLMURL]

 

[Queen Boudica]

Well I don't know but the fact that it has come out that ex H did rape his sister when he was a teenager and she was about 5 years younger than him and he has never shown any true guilt and tried to cover up details by saying he can't remember or say she is exagerating and then made statements like "He did not force her to do it" Well that would seem to me that he developed these sociopathic tendencies in childhood. But what would I know.

 

[Queen Boudica]

Oh and did I mention he would beat his two younger sisters and tried to strangle his younger sister? All of which he has made light of, "Well that was what it was like in the 70's" "I got caned for God's sake" Ughhhhhhh! All of which I have been discussing with my psychologist

 

[anthony]

I am not saying your ex husband is not one... I am simply pointing to more information that people need to think outside their own experiences. People confuse sociopath with simply a bad person who likes to rape people. That does not make them a sociopath, it makes them a rapist who has no care or concern for the gender... yet they don't rape people of their own gender!

Everything you state fits a pattern that the man has no respect for females, that does not make a person a sociopath by definition. It makes him a person who has no respect for women, period.

Again, he could be one... that is for a psychiatrist to determine. My point is that people throw the term around loosely in application to people who do bad shit.

Some people just do bad shit, and they start in childhood and continue through to adulthood, still not a sociopath though.

 

[Queen Boudica]

So you are going by a few lines that I have written that he has no respect for women. That is jumping to conclusions

Sorry he has plenty of respect for women. He loves women he hangs around with them he praises them his women work colleagues adore him, all the secretaries, and so have a lot of our women friends. He flatters them and plays the charming little boy with them. He has women friends over men.

He believes in women's rights. He does not get on with men so well. He would encourage me in my career and encourage his women colleagues.

His treatment of his sister's was about control. Did not matter whether they were women, it was about control. And the same with me. And he thinks he has that right and will justify it that he was provoked. Or that is how things are.

He has less respect for other men, but he cannot exert power over them. His younger sisters and me were much easier to control and abuse.

Whether he is a sociopath or not I don't know for sure but I would not mind laying a bet on it. All I know he is a real nasty deceptive shit who has no guilt and it is all about himself and how badly he has been treated.

He is never going to admit true guilt for what he has done and he will never get a psychiatric evaluation and the psychologists he saw, well he charmed the pants off of them and just played down what he had done, saying he was sorry whilst at the same time asking me to come up with a list of his abuse and then giving excuses as to why I provoked him into violence.

Not that I care anymore, I would just like to have him out of my life completely.

So it is not a 'no respect for women' thing at all. It is about control.



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[anthony]

And control issues does not make him a sociopath either... this thread is titled "Experiences with a sociopath" in which you responded, and more specifically, to my comment made, referring to other reading.

So if you don't know if he is a sociopath, then this is my exact reason for posting the above link. People just apply a few aspects and lump someone and call them a sociopath, as you have posted about your husband is this exact titled thread as your experience with a sociopath, which you also now admit, you do not know if he is one or not, but he is a nasty person.

Hence my point... why are people dropping abusers into titles like this in the first place?

 

[Queen Boudica]

Look I replied to the thread because I do think he is probably a sociopath I have gone over this with my psychologist in much more detail and he also thinks he is probably a sociopath and he has met him. No it is not a proper psychiatric evaluation. You do not have all the details so don't pick at every little detail.

I replied to get a better idea whether he was or was not and try to understand exactly who I am dealing with. I will never KNOW whether he is a true sociopath. But I have a better understanding of what a sociopath is by having replied to this thread and the responses from others.

The link you gave me just confirmed he developed his tendencies when he was a child more evidence to me that he could yes could be a sociopath.

So you are telling me I had no right to respond to this thread? Well I gained valuable insight by doing so, so I don't care what you think. The link was useful but I am dealing with my psychologist who has a far better picture of the situation.

 

[Queen Boudica]

And by the way Anthony I created this thread in the first place to ask what other's experiences with sociopath's were to get a better picture of whether I was dealing with a sociopath or not. It is my post. I wanted to know what others were experiencing to see if that was the same as what I was dealing with. So I think I can respond to my own post.

Sorry if I am so inadequate and inexperienced that I have not phrased or done something to meet your standards gained by your years of trianing. I am just trying to deal with the mess I have been left with and trying to work out how to recover.

I thought this post helped me and I had some very helpful comments. So I am glad I posted this thread even though it obviously wasn't worded correctly

 

[EloiseLandau]

I dated a guy for a while who lied to me, cheated on me, tried to arrange for me to get sexually assaulted again, tried to barter me behind my back for favors, told people I was bisexual, wrapped his hands around my throat and squeezed, backed off in genuine panic when I fought back, belittled any accomplishment I did on my own, praised me big time for the little demeaning jobs he tried to get me to do.

Not sure if he was a socio or psycho, but the look on his face was priceless when I dumped his butt.

 

[Broken]

Some people just do bad shit, and they start in childhood and continue through to adulthood, still not a sociopath though.

Forgive me if I am out of line, is it possible that something triggered you in the previous posts.

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