General Has Anyone Else Experienced Holistic Therapy

[amethist]

Thanks KP.

Today the sun is shining and so is hubby.

I went out before he got up this morning, hoping he would be up and about by the time I got back. Not only was he up and about, he had washed up, put them all away, and had cleared his tools away in his shed.

He has gone to bed for an hour now, but has eaten a good lunch and wants his hair cut when he gets up.

All with a smile on his face again.

 

[KP the nut]

wants his hair cut when he gets up.

H and I will be the scruffy ones on Saturday. No hair cut or colour for me :(, but to be fair it isn't so long since it was done ;).

 

[Eleanor]

Glad to hear it is a better day today!

Shorter episode/recovery cycles, is what we are taking comfort in these days. 10 hours is a heck of a lot better than three days!

Mourning for what was, in my experience, always comes and goes. More for bigger things. I still cry, after all, about my grandparents and they died... more than 30 years ago. Perhaps having put "paid" to that before, this time when it came up he didn't shut it out/could admit that the feelings were up and cried it out. Which is, as I understand it, the thing to do. You are so lucky to have each other.:)

 

[Meadowsweet]

From my experience, I feel at times I am reconciled to what I can no longer do and that I accept who I am now. Then for no reason, something will spark in me and it hits me all over again.

I recognise this alot,its like a loop of re-experiencing, reconciling, forgiving and then back re-experiencing again, and the whole cycle of reconciling and finding forgiveness has to be gone through again.

Amethist, I started meditating years ago, and found it very difficult at first (and find it almost impossible at the moment). But, I found that a routine that lets the mind know its meditation time can make it easier.

I'm not sure I'm explaining myself well today, but I mean if he chooses the same time everyday, and always lights a candle, holds a particular object, or even a routine like having a shower or wearing particular clothes. It doesn't work straight away and he might have to spend time just sitting quietly for a week or three before the routine sinks in.

I hope that made sense.

 

[amethist]

It makes perfect sense Meadowsweet.

He is getting back to meditation in the morning and he does have a crystal he holds, and always before the living room curtains are opened.

Funny thing is, I am the spiritual one, yet he can slip into a meditative state a lot easier than I can. :rolleyes:

Unfortunately this has been a 8 day spiral, and it was only when I pointed out to him, what he had done, or not done, in the last 8 days that he excepted what I was trying to explain to him. Then it all changed.

He told me at lunch time, that next time he feels himself slipping, he will ask me to give his butt a kick.

If that's what he wants, no problem. I can do butt kicking very well, and get a positive outcome. ;) :roflmao:

 

[KP the nut]

He told me at lunch time, that next time he feels himself slipping, he will ask me to give his butt a kick.

Can we all have a turn, please form an orderly queue behing Amethist :roflmao:.

 

[Daisygirl]

Amethyst, I am really glad that your husband is still making progress, even if the road isn't a straight line. After reading all the posts today, I was comforted. I want to "move on". I don't want to think about the things I have no control over anymore. Yet, it seems I don't have a choice. Like KP said, something very minor can happen and it starts all the negative memories. Then, I have to do the work to get myself out.

I also need to remember that for my husband as well. He also has just recently been able to admit that when he gets in his "funk" that he is feeling sorry for himself. He completely shuts down except for work. He can do his work it seems, but at home, he is not available.

His being able to admit what is going on though, has helped me a lot. And fortunately, the "funks" are getting shorter. Sometimes I get stuck on wanting the end result. I really have some work to do to accept that we may always have to deal with each other's issues. But hopefully it will not be for days or weeks, but just a few hours.

He just told me yesterday that he is looking into eastern religion and philosophy in a way for him to find "the middle path". I was so proud! This is the first time he has ever taken initiative to help himself.

Thanks again for this thread. I am getting a lot of perspective from your story and others supportive posts!

 

[amethist]

Hubby wants to go back and do this all again.

He say's there is too much going on right now for him to deal with, and needs a top up to get through the next few months.

It has taken him weeks to open up and tell me this, but I have known he needed something, before he told me.

Lets hope he stick to it and lets me phone them.

 

[Eleanor]

Fingers and toes crossed. Prayers sent...:tup:

 

[amethist]

Getting back in touch with them today. :D Hubby told me last night that they were the ones that really helped him, so to "Go for it"

 

[amethist]

E-mail was s ent just after 7 am. Just have to wait for their reply now.

I am hoping they have taken this week off though, as they do work long days. So next week we should hear back from them.

 

[Gloria]

I'd like to share that I gave all my medication for anxiety and sleep and went holistic. I know I didn't do it overnight but weaned off slowly and went on a very strict diet also with no sugar, alcohol and chemicals. I am feeling better than I ever felt in my life. I stopped taking medication for my heart condition as well and my doctor does not support this holistic approach. But I looked it up on the internet and medication for my heart was only 20% effective in preventing cardiac death and it made me a zombie (beta blockers). I practice meditiation and monitor my blood pressure.

Someday, the doctors and people in general will understand that we are not physical bodies that have spirits but we are spirits inhabiting a physical body. It's totally connected - the mind and body.

Good luck to all!