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What Happens If I Am "healed"?

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Anthony, love the picture you included and you are absolutely right. Of course, one can tell who has PTSD and who doesn't. I am actually focusing on the person I have become already since I have made major progress. I like myself now better then I used to and I know that I am a loving and caring person. I always have been and have done so much for other people that I forgot myself (probably on purpose) throughout that.
Anyway, it was just something I wondered about. It derives from my fear and anxiety issues which I constantly have to work on.

PS: I know "normal" is relative :)
 
This is one of the big things for someone with complex ptsd starting at birth. You never had a time to develop a sense of self. I am largely 'healed' now, but I am struggling with just who I am.

EDIT: I gotta say though, its a struggle and a little overwhelming, but its also quite enjoyable to get to know myself and figure out who I am, because I'm awesome. Its really pretty cool. Try not to look at it as some great horrible hurdle to overcome, and more just, like youre just dating yourself and getting to know this wonderful person who you think you want to spend the rest of your life with.
 
Maddog, you are so spot on.
It's why the old addage about "taking something out and putting something back in its place" is so important, yet seemingly so often overlooked.
That is exactly what I had to learn when I quit drinking. Every time I was depressed, my brain thought "Alert, add alcohol". It took quite a while for this thought not automatically come up.

I have complex ptsd. Started in my childhood and I had more traumas along the way. I love the way you explained it, that there was nothing before the trauma in childhood and yes that may be why the thought of healing and what happens that seems foreign to me. Just like I did with the alcohol, I will have to find something to fill "this void" at the appropriate time.

I also think that when you wonder about the healing process like that, that one has achieved major hurdles in the healing process.
 
Well, for myself when I worry... I can become more stressed and fretful and less able to perform in the present moment. I try to limit the amout of time and energy I spend on worry and for me, decided that it inhibits me from goals and wants/needs/desires I set for myself. I can choose to worry, but if I do, it is a self indulgence. I no longer have to stay there. It can be there "a worry", and I can still function in daily life, but if it becomes a paralizing thing... I am usually avoiding something. I also see my depressive aspects as self indulgence too. I can hold them now (the feelings) but they do not really affect me for days/weeks/months the way they used to. I no longer employ it to distract or procrastinate on things that need doing or my attention in my present.

"When dreaded outcomes are actually imminent we don't worry about them, we take action. Seeing lava from the local volcano make its way down the street toward our house does not cause worry it causes running. Also we don't usually choose imminent events as subjects for our worrying and thus emerges an ironic truth: Often the very fact that you are worrying about something means that it isn't likely to happen." ~ Gaven de Becker

"Basically, if the mind stays in the present, it’s impossible to worry. Upon careful consideration, it becomes clear that human beings are capable of worrying only about an event that has already transpired or one that may take place in the future (although the occurrence might have just happened or may be about to happen in the next instant). The present moment contains no time or space for worry." ~ H.E. Davey

"To live by worry is to live against reality" ~ E. Stanley Jones

"Worry is a misuse of the imagination." ~ Dan Zadra
 
I am largely 'healed' now, but I am struggling with just who I am.

For me it all comes down not to who I am but simply to I am. There's so much in this but I can't find the right words. The "I am" is a major step in coming to terms with everything, reality, so to speak. When I am, then there is no fear because I am. There is no question remaining.
 
I don't get this comment?
Basically, worrying is a form of anxiety, typically control related. Learning what you control and what you do not, is part of removing / minimising worry anxiety.

It is human to be worried under some circumstances, though others, it is self-indulgent to create your own anxiety... ie. how people often put themselves into a panic attack, all done themselves, not so much external cues.
 
Oh my goodness - when I'm healed, bells will ring throughout the land! ;)

I think healing includes finding who we are and finding acceptance with ourselves and our lives. I see that as part of the whole process. IMO, it's not just about fixing or managing symptoms and leaving a void where they were before. We give a meaning to trauma, and that's part of what we need to heal from. I think we find a different meaning as part of healing.

BTW, I might also hand out free Bueno bars to everyone I meet.
 
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