Most Valuable Lessons

[p-no]

I should not regret their loss, but I should choose big gratitude for them.

How do you do this? I have not learned this yet. Then again, yes, gratitude, for sure. But it takes me years and years to let go emotionally. Anyone has a most valuable lesson on this, if I may ask?

 

[Tanishq]

How do you do this? I have not learned this yet. Then again, yes, gratitude, for sure. But it takes me years and years to let go emotionally. Anyone has a most valuable lesson on this, if I may ask?

You will regret if you focus on mistakes you have done.

You will show gratitude when you look at their positive sharing, true love.

Does this make sense? Honestly, I had hard time learning this. it took 3 years to understand this.

 

[p-no]

Thank you, Jaret. I do understand that. I just don't understand much of the letting go. :)[DOUBLEPOST=1347292347][/DOUBLEPOST]Whitney, here's another very, very valuable lesson from my life. I got this early-on and applied it to my life. That was a good thing. I am grateful.

 

[Tanishq]

I think I am understanding you prime-no from where you are coming.

Generally people think or assume that letting go is about forgetting. No it means not cling on that person with bad memories. Otherwise you are making hard for yourself from moving on. Letting go means move ahead with the intention live life better after learning lesson.

I fully agree your pic post. Remembering regret can be alert flag for us not to repeat the same mistake over and over.

It depends how you are viewing it.

I am loving this thread. :)

 

[Tanishq]

I find it more challenging when a small child opens their mouth and says the darndest embarrassing things.
Still find that one hard to deal with. It always catches me off guard. They are only speaking what they are thinking. But it sure makes things awkward.

It helps if the person being talked about has a sense of humor. Oh well. Big sigh.

Gizmo it is the most toughest lesson for adults like us. How to behave with kids who are new to this world and learning with their own way. People make it seriously, more embarrassing and end up scolding the kid rather than unfolding some art or best from kid.

By the way I have plans to have 4 kids when I become father after marriage :D

 

[goingonhope]

One of the biggest for me is that safety and comfort aren't conducive to healing. They are desirable and tempting, avoiding pain seems like a good idea, but the only way for me to reduce my anxiety, fear, and self loathing is to get out into the world and do things that scare me and are outside my comfort zone, and see that as long as I am not an idiot in choosing the risks I take, nothing is going to hurt me like my parents did

Hi Loner, this is so true and I love that you've said this here!

This certainly has been a personal lesson and my experience as well, and I only got it through being told this many yrs. ago, ...then through me using its sense as my reference when making decisions, I'd go for it and push myself into the world. Then over time, it became no effort and very simple and I'd just be carried through, as if I cared none that I was perhaps different then many others. And, that experience in itself was freeing, healing and just awesome.

However, now I particularly love that you've shared this here, because I need its reminder!

I've been somehow getting caught in reoccurring, and most negative trance like states which, - (since a ptsd and tbi experience and its later hospitalization in 2010), .....are most self-destructive, as well as, sadly do nothing more then provide me excuses and pro-addictive fuel, so to speak, that pave the way for me to deeply isolate, and bring on emotional instability, lack of manageability and less self-control and basically a self-imprisonment of sorts.

Glad you posted, Loner!

 

[The Albatross]

Agree that the art of letting go has a lot to do with learning and acknowledging that my perceptions about events are uniquely mine. They can be beneficial or detrimental... there is usually not two sides to the coin. It's more like examining a finely cut gemstone... and realizing that I "hold" the stone, that I view the stone, and that I turn the stone over in my own hands... someone else does not do that for me.

I do it all by myself. My perceptions are my own view point through the lense of my interpretation of both experiences and my observable surroundings. Very often I can change it to be more accomidating and not hold my own views too rigidly, preventing a sense of well being and expansiveness. (if that makes sense)

 

[Whitneys story]

Another really good one I struggle reminding myself of, is to do things for the experience, not the outcome.

Wow Loner, This is profound! I like it a million times. Whitney

 

[Whitneys story]

I also am loving this! Everyone is really bringing some great life learning and experience to share.
I will catch up soon. Hugs to those that accept them, Whitney:D

 

[p-no]

If you don't know, ask.
If all you can do is guess, ask.

Seems simple, but I have some learning to do there...

 

[The Albatross]

"Today I create a new habit of healing, one choice at a time."

That was a tough one... and I don't always embrace it, but I keep coming back to it.

 

[Whitneys story]

Anything short of this, is insufficient for me.

I know what strength this requires, if all could learn this just imagine the change and clarity around the universe!

Thank you for sharing. Whitney