Anxiety And Worry Coming Back, Need Advice

[Tanishq]

I understand what you are saying gizmo. That's hard and can generate any kind of anxiety. It's natural way of getting anxious. Of course, it's also nature of beloved relationships. Big :hug:

 

[Shellbell]

Big hugs (((((gizmo)))). I've only just seen this thread.

So many people have already said some great advice. I'm glad to see you say you are going to be kind to yourself, you need to do that.

Hope today is going okay? :hug:

 

[JustBe]

Gizmo, I just found this thread. I'm so sorry I wasn't here for you but it looks like others were and you got some great advice!
(((Hugs)))

 

[Phoenix_Rising]

Gizmo... Great big hugs & lots of support & healing energy being sent your way... I am glad you figured out what was best for you...

As you know, I too know that bottomless, or seemingly bottomless & overwhelming fear of losing the one you love so much...

I agree it is better in this situation to focus on the now, to care for both your husband & your self, that in itself takes so much energy, to just focus on what is immediately in front of you & what you need now.

There will be a time for grief, for reaching out, for support but for now enjoy the time you can with your husband & in your own life you are slowly building for your self. It is okay if it is too much now. Enjoy what ever small moments of pleasure you can in between the difficult times, I know it's hard.

Sending you strength & courage, & wishing you some well deserved happiness & peace in your life...

Your friend,
Phoenix
xx

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Jaret, well said. It is in the nature of beloved relationships. I do not need to worry about this right now. It takes away the pleasures I can glean from each day. Thank you for caring and responding.

Shellbell, thank you so much for your kind and gracious words. I really appreciate it alot. I will be kind to myself today.

Thanks Movin On for the hugs, I can always use them.

Phoenix how can I thank you for all that you said to me. Thank you is not enough. It is a bottomless fear. And I was in the pit of it. It is in the future and it robs of today. I know this. I was getting ahead of myself. I always want to be informed and prepared for what lies ahead. I am tired of making mistakes in this learn as I go.

There is time enough for that later on. That is the extent of my new plan.

Thank you so much for the blessings you bestowed upon me. This means so much to me. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond to me. Your words comforted me greatly. Big hugs .

 

[Tanishq]

Gizmo Big :hug:

 

[Suzan]

I find what helps alot for me with my anxiety is to do a worry sheet and just put everything down on paper, let myself worry about it and then put it all aside. Best to do it later in the afternoon, rather than in the evening when you can end up taking it to bed with you, but I have found late in the afternoon gives you that time to just get it all out and then I am able to get a decent nights sleep instead of staying up worry about stuff. Just a thought and another way to maybe help. ***Hugs***

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thanks Suzan, that is a really good idea. I am having emdr tommorow and I will tell her about what is going on. I will write down all of the things I am worrying about and see what i journal about it. I might do it in the mornings. I want to get it out of the way.

Thanks for taking the time to respond to me so thoughtfully, and I appreciate the hugs.

 

[SweetPeaandSunBird]

Gizmo, I just found this thread. I'm so sorry I wasn't here for you but it looks like others were and you got some great advice!

Same here Gizmo.

I'm glad you were able to find a bit of calm after the high anxiety. I'm glad you posted a thread for help and advice. It has helped us all (some ideas for anxiety) and it was good to see your example of asking for help.

HOpe you have a positive Saturday today. (((hugs)))

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thanks Sweet, It is proving to be a better day. I will have a busy week. I am feeling al whole lot better now. Thanks for the kind and encouraging words. I really appreciate it alot.