Need advice serious depression

[MemyselfandI]

Hello everyone, I need advice I’m suffering from severe depression. I am looking for other coping skills besides walking exercise, cleaning the house reading and doing hobbies and also breathing I find when I’m walking my dog I start crying I find out when I’m cleaning the house I get angry I find myself trying to do hobbies like art, and I have no inspiration, and I just stare at the page, I find myself doing breathing techniques and it just doesn’t feel good. It feels like I’m forcing it it feels uncomfortable and I’m OK for a minute and then it starts back up again. I’ve tried church I don’t know what to do. There’s got to be other coping mechanisms besides all of the above and medication , I would really appreciate some advice on how to navigate my days. Better thank you.

 

[MemyselfandI]

And yes, I’ve also tried journaling and that’s fine and dandy, but doesn’t fix any problems

 

[MemyselfandI]

I am not working, and all the coping skills that I read about and hear about our fleeting and feel like a pain in the ass to even do at this point I am literally pushing myself so hard for example, just a journal and it just doesn’t seem like that is a way to live life

 

[whiteraven]

Welcome, @MemyselfandI! I understand how hard it can be to manage day-to-day with depression--I've been dealing with depression for decades, and I have long periods when nothing seems to work.

You didn't mention if you were seeing a therapist--they often have techniques and skills they can teach you to help. Took me a very long time to find something that works for me, and I'm still struggling these days. But...I am able to work, and I am involved in a lot of things. I'm not happy, but I'm managing.

I journal, and I write, and I often am unable to find inspiration. Sometimes, I just scribble, or I just write down words that may not be connected. It seems stupid at the time, but it actually does help.

 

[Starfire]

Hello everyone, I need advice I’m suffering from severe depression. I am looking for other coping skills besides walking exercise, cleaning the house reading and doing hobbies and also breathing I find when I’m walking my dog I start crying I find out when I’m cleaning the house I get angry I find myself trying to do hobbies like art, and I have no inspiration, and I just stare at the page, I find myself doing breathing techniques and it just doesn’t feel good. It feels like I’m forcing it it feels uncomfortable and I’m OK for a minute and then it starts back up again. I’ve tried church I don’t know what to do. There’s got to be other coping mechanisms besides all of the above and medication , I would really appreciate some advice on how to navigate my days. Better thank you.

I had a friend tell me once that I should just follow the words of the Prophet Nike. (Just do it) Doesn't have to feel good. Can make me cry, feel angry whatever. Just do it.

 

[Friday]

I’m fairly certain that rampant hedonism kept me from having to deal with / manage depression for the first 20+ years of my PTSD.

AS? I lived in instinct, for a lot of it.
AND? Had a hardline rule of having to do “something” fun, every day.

Depression? Only entered my life when I STOPPED acting out. And acting ON. And engaging in whatever bad behaviour I felt like, in the moment.

Having now, done both? I would faaaar rather have the ‘amends’ tour, than slogging through depression. As I lose more, and more permanently, when I’m depressed, than when I’m an asshole.

Not PC advice, but? Lived advice.