Treading Dangerously?!

[HëllaBubz]

Thanks Nic, that's high praise in my books!

I'm always going to keep trying, so long as my sense of fair play makes sure that my compromises don't outweigh the benefits/productivity reaped!

It's the only way to make sure I don't end up deceiving myself that everything is fine.

 

[Nicolette]

You know, its posts like your Bubzilla which make me feel like it is worth it. For all the time I spend here, if just one thing resonates with someone and makes a positive difference to their journey (even if only for one day) I feel it was worth my time and energy.

I may only have been on this journey with Anthony for 5.5 years but I have dealt with others who suffer and I know what is possible as I have seen the transformation first hand. If it all goes to sh*t and Anthony goes backwards I still then have the hope that he can one day get back to where he is today. So there is always hope but I did quickly learn that those with PTSD can be their own enemy.

I can even identify at the moment how the easier road is the more attractive option but then I have to ask myself where do I want to be in life.

 

[HëllaBubz]

:hug: Nic.

You really made me smile, I know how that feels, and it's so good when I can make someone else feel that way, especially someone I know who works so hard to fight not only your own demons but his too.

I'm assuming that his demons and yours play nicely together??:p:sneaky::angelic:

I work in high care dementia, I get the crap kicked out of me, I get sworn at, spat at, abused and hated, but it's the moment when they have a glimpse of clarity and give me a heartfelt hug or a wrinkled, worn hand cupping my cheek in appreciation that I cannot help but think that every bruise and scar was worth it.

And even when I don't, it's the ghost of a smile that I get when a notoriously grouchy /withdrawn and shy client.

One thing I told my partner is that people with PTSD are sometimes like small children who REALLY wanna go play with the stove, and will throw a grown up sized tantrum when you remind them (after they've burnt themselves several times) that they know full well the consequences, and could they PLEASE go find something NEW to burn themselves on?? :eek::p:banghead::blackeye::bawling::angelic:

 

[Whitneys story]

This post does not have a 'best fit' forum (discussed with Anthony) and as it concerns what I read in this area so here it is........

Possibly as the thread is long a refresher might help.:hug:

I also have had the shoe on the other foot so I believe I am not being unrealistic with what I say.

Has anyone actually has read this statement?:facepalm:

This is not aimed at anyone

:confused:

Very clearly stated as a comment enhancing the reason for questioning.

Are your supporters limiting you by accepting that this is the best you will ever be or become? Do you ever want more than a little from life?

This would be a simple pro/con question which is open.

I feel so fortunate to have had some counseling, seems like a hundred years ago. The best thing I managed to take away from it was to review every situation, act or react! We are all special or we would not be here.

We all have past programing that throws up defense mechanisms, lack of trust. I personally felt the OP to be an honest attempt to understand. Why PTSD, Trauma and related illness spans such a wide array of functioning or not functioning for those suffering. Being enabled is not the fault of the recipient but reason to question are we being held back by others? There is no blame here.

There are so many here with "Silent Illness's". Although there are many excellent comments and recommendations what works for some does not work for others. Open discussion allows us to say what we feel in hopes that someone has a better experience from others. We share for the benefit of ourselves and others. We also are not required to believe a word of what someone has to say. The respect allowed here is not available out in the world. We have a choice!

I personally feel there is no one here who does not want better for fellow members. JMHO Whitney:hug:

 

[Whitneys story]

You know, its posts like your Bubzilla which make me feel like it is worth it.

I like it a million, maybe trillion! We are never alone here, around every corner someone has our backs!

 

[Whitneys story]

This is all I have the energy for right now...It has not been a good day. :(

((((((((((((Ayesha)))))))))))) My wish for you is that each day brings healing. That each day brings a little more energy! Hugs, Whitney

 

[Estacia]

I used to have my PTSD managed. So I thought. Got older and something snaped?

 

[Britt.f7]

The same thing happened to me, Estacia. Just this year, though I think it started rearing it's ugly head a couple years back. It got me good this year, after almost 20 years of near peace(by comparison).

 

[Eleanor]

Just a speculation - my H's PTSD (which was dormant when we met) seemed to get triggered by our daughter's ages - when she got to the age his abuse started... it got bad. When she hit the ages his older daughters were when bad things happened in their then family... it got bad. I wonder if the identification works "the other" way too? When he reached the age his father was ...? The brain is a full service association machine...

 

[HëllaBubz]

The brain is a full service association machine...

Argh.....don't even get me started!

Although exposure therapy is helping, my brain isn't!