Poll Have You Ever Had Survival Sex?

[Lady of Longbourn]

Survival sex is actually seen as a type of prostitution but "by people in extreme need. It describes the practice of people who are homeless or otherwise disadvantaged in society, trading sex for food, a place to sleep, or other basic needs, or for drugs."

I am sure there are other reasons to have survival sex but those are the main ones.

I have more then once. I did it for money to pay bills, a place to hang out ( knowing if I slept with them I would have a safe place to be) and for food.

Honestly looking back if I was in the same situation I would probably do it all over again. I think it is probably healthy to get this out in the open.

I was just wondering if other people have. I don't hear it talked about on the forum.

If you need more information Wikipedia has a good article:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survival_sex

 

[Philippa]

Yes, I have, when I was homeless and needed a place to stay until I got on my feet. As it turned out though, the person I stayed with wasn't that safe to be around either, so I chose to stay in a homeless shelter rather than put myself at further risk.

After I had gotten on my feet though, I did have sex with a guy who wasn't that great because he offered me a place to go to and cuddles when I needed them, and I was alone in a city and did not have many friends. It wasn't very healthy, but I needed human contact and touch.

I would also do it again if I had to. I've also worked in the sex industry when I was desperate for money for bills and rent etc. Quite recently in fact...though I don't have sex as such.

 

[safenow]

One time I was living in as a nanny. The woman used to party a lot, and would disappear for days at a time, forgetting she had two small children at home. At point, she was gone for almost a month, the rent was due, there was very little food in the house, they were going to turn off the electricity.

I called my uncle and spoke to one of his group who happened to be a police officer. He in turn turned me over to his father, who agreed. He said he'd pay all the bills if I'd spend the night with him. I agreed, and made arrangements for the children to spend the night with a friend.

The next day he kept his word and everything was paid and there was food in the house. Plus, he also dropped off a box of steaks the day after. When she got home I had words with her, and she got angry and fired me. I never told her what I'd done for her children. But I still believe I did the right thing. I have no shame or guilt in that incident.

 

[Philippa]

God...that is amazing. Most people would not do that...ever. You deserve some kind of amazing medal made of pure gold. What a dumb bitch that woman was to leave you all in that position.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I stayed with wasn't that safe to be around either

I think I am lucky that the two people I slept with for money were nice to me. One of them wanted me as a sort of mistress and also wanted to pay me to date him. He also had friends who wanted to sleep with me in exchange for money. Another man wanted me to be his 'maid' but a friend who knew this man warned me that this man just wanted sex or to rape me. I also had a boss who was trying to get me to have sex with him in order to keep my job.

Now looking back at how dangerous that was I feel lucky.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Safenow and philippa,

Was it hard to do?

 

[Philippa]

Yes, I have clients at the moment who have paid me to be their girlfriend for a short time...they are too busy to have a real relationship. I thought of advertising to be a maid, but decided it would probably end up with me getting raped, so I didn't do it.

Did you end up leaving the job where your boss was pressuring you?

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

The first time I did it was with a man I met at my 2nd job. He and his friends would show up at my work a few times a week and hang out there. They spent a lot of time trying to get my attention and that man asked me out almost every week. "Please date me." he would say "I will pay you." He was very lonely.

One day I was taking a break at work and telling him about my financial problems. "If you have sex with me I will give you the money to pay your bills."

So I did. Thankfully he was very nice to me during the sex. We even talked before and he treated me kindly. He wanted me as a mistress.

 

[safenow]

Most people would not do that...ever.

I'd like to believe that anyone would under the same circumstances. This is why I don't judge people, because who knows what we would do given the same circumstances? I have chronic PTSD from multiple traumas. That man was kind enough to answer my plea for help, but I'll tell you right now, I'd never have been with him if it hadn't been for the children. In those days, I hated men because of some things I'd been through. But my family had trained me for this type of thing, so I knew what to do.

If I could have found the children's fathers, I would have taken them to them and allowed her to lose everything.

 

[Philippa]

At the time it didn't seem hard to do with this one guy, as I'd gotten to know him for a while before hand and he wasn't such a bad guy initially...as usual. He was interested in me, and he honored me as a person at the start, so it did not seem so bad, and he helped me a lot during that time, which was very hard.

With the f*ck buddy I had, it wasn't hard, but he was hard to be around at times, as he had mental health issues and would turn into a bully based on his own internal conflicts.

The massage industry was hard initially, and it still is hard at times, dealing with crazy clients who request really out there things at times, but I think it is like any other job...you just adapt and get used to it, and rise to the challenges. So far the hardest thing has been contending with a mega bitch who also works there who just yesterday tried to set me up to get fired, by planting a condom in the room I used, to make it look like I was having sex with clients...which I don't do.

This was all because I took her favorite room...twice.:rolleyes:

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Did you end up leaving the job where your boss was pressuring you?

Yes. Both of my bosses there actually wanted me to have sex with them. One day one of them trapped me in the kitchen and started touching me and trying to kiss me. I got away but I knew that they would hurt me. I knew that they would just rape me and hurt me. I might have been able to keep the job but I knew they would hurt me.

After I turned him down and few days later I asked for my pay. He refused. I needed that money becasue I was hungry but it was not worth being raped.

I left the job after that. I knew it would get worse. I had a feeling he would start hurting me

 

[Philippa]

One day I was taking a break at work and telling him about my financial problems. "If you have sex with me I will give you the money to pay your bills."

So I did.

I did have one client a year ago...actually he was my second client ever in the massage industry, who I mentioned I had problems paying the bills to and he offered me $200 if I gave him a blow job...but I couldn't bring myself to do that...so I passed on it. I managed to pay the bills anyhow...just giving hand relief.