My Daughter Got Beat Up By Her Husband Last Night While She Was Asleep

[Deleted member 12723]

Well it went really bad for my daughter. Her husband got a postponement for another month on the order.

He had a lawyer. My daughter is getting a lawyer tonight.

He said she cut herself and she beat herself up. He wants all of the furniture. My daughter paid for most of it. The good thing is that he filed for divorce. So she does not have to shell out the five hundred dollars for the fee. He wants all of his guns back. He is being such a jerk.

He refuses to admit that he did that to her. She is very discouraged and going to a lawyer today at five. I will pay for it.

I hope she gets some help. She said his attorney is a real bitch. I am feeling pretty low. This is going to be a very ugly process. He is lying. I cannot believe he wants his guns back. I sure hope the police department destroyed them.

We will have to take it one day at a time. I thought she would get the permanent restraining order today.

She did not look at him in the courtroom. He also said she was cheating on him. But he does not have any proof.

I just feel sick about how it went today. It will be better once she gets an a attorney. I sure wish she had listened to me.

 

[nursenurse]

Oh Gizmo, I so wish she had listened to you as well. I am so sorry. And of course he wants his guns back. She needs a good b with an itch lawyer herself. Prayers to you and more thoughts when I have a chance.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you nursenurse. She is going to talk to a lawyer today at five pm. I will watch the girls. I will pay for the attorney. He even wants her to sell her cats and give him the money for them.

I thought when the police confiscated guns they destroyed them.

Now she has to wait a whole month for the permanent restraining order. He says that she hit herself. He said she was cheating on him. He is such a vindictive liar. I am aware that he can ask for things but that does not mean he will get it.

I hope he makes a fool out of himself. I hate that she has to go through this.

The lawyer she will talk to specializes in restraining orders and divorce. I am glad he filed for divorce. It saved us five hundred dollars for paying for it.

He sure is into revenge. He still has his own court case of the fact that he was arrested for domestic violence and will have to go against the DA. My daughter seems to think he will not get jail time but an ankle bracelet. I just hope he is convicted.

He is so full of hate towards her for taking these steps.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Well my daughter got a fine attorney. She has worked with this judge for many years and knows how he works. My daughter said her husbands lawyer is very young.

Her lawyer has twenty years experience. She has to drop off the check tommorow by ten.

My daughter was so happy. One thing I found out that is interesting is that they photographed his knuckles and they were red.

Now I am confident that things will go better for my daughter.

His lawyer spoke about alot of irevelent topics designed to break my daughters spirit and make her look like the bad guy. Her attorney said he is going down. I sure hope so.

He does not know what he is doing and my daughters attorney and staff will take care of her. She is pricey. It depleted our funds greatly. But my daughter needs so much.

My husband has been in a delusion all day. It was very hard. He was talking to my daughter about his delusion. He even asked her to look outside the window to see what he could see. She was very sweet with him and talked nicely to him.

He watched me write out a check. So when he freaks later on I will tell him that he watched me sign the check. I may have to pay more.

My daughter seems to think her attorney will be a bitch to her husband. He still has a felony case pending.

So it looks like the postponement turned out to be a good thing, it gives my daughters attorney plenty of time to prepare for the next court date.

I am feeling so relieved. She will have to go back to Welfare on Thursday and finish processing her paperwork. She said it will be an all day thing.

The restraining order is still in effect. So he will continue to stay away. He seeks total control in this situation. Things are going to be alot different for him.

He still has a felony hearing to go to. I wish I knew when that was. What we really need is for some guys to kick his ass and tell him to dissapear. But that is not going to happen. I just feel so much better now. Great relief.

 

[nursenurse]

I am so glad for you that things are going better. Sounds like this lawyer may just whoop his arese but good. Maybe she can find out about the felony hearing for you, since it involved your daughter in the first place. More prayers for you guys that all will continue forward in a positive light :)

 

[Eleanor]

Gods, gizmo what a rollercoaster/scary time for you all. I am glad your daughter got a lawyer who looks so promising! How lucky your daughter is to have parents who love and support her so well and so consistently.

Take good care of you.
Sending good energy, peace and healing.

 

[anni]

Yes, the attorney I finally was able to get scared the bejeesis out of ME, she was so, so effective. She was/is a little legendary around here, plus had great connections in hefty legal circles all the heck all over PA. Pricey also, but you're doing the right thing. Easy for me to say, I know, but back when I had to write that check I was literally selling jewelry to eat. The ex was offering to kill me if I didn't stop asking for child support and since he'd already almost done it ( a few times.... ) I believed him. There's just no amount you can't make up for later, for now? Squish the slimeball.

If you can get past the fear, it will be a sheer pleasure to watch this hemmaroid wipe shoot himself in both feet and his gluteous maxiMOST. They can't wait to get into court to 'tattle' on us, their attornies tend to get them all whipped up, assuring them of victory ( it's money, a fee, not truly a win they're in there for ) and by the time they get in front of the mediator or judge they just POP. It's all ego, they can't help themselves. That's how mine finally went, anyway. I'd originally had some abysmal expeinces but that was because the ex was a surgeon and no one wished to believe one of THEM could possibly also be a raging, abusive alcoholic. I also wasn't as proactive as you folks are, had truly believed all I had to was go to the police and POOF, the nasty beast would be stopped. Wow, huh?

All this to say I think you and your family are doing amazingly well, and it certainly sounds like you'll continue to do so. Gosh, I hope it's over SOON, and you all get your lives back. Thinking of you, do take care of yourself, too? Hugs and Peace to you, Gizmo.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you nursenurse. I appreciate the prayers and good thoughts. I am more hopeful now. My daughter is on her way to the attorneys office to drop off the check. I am so grateful we had the funds to pay for her.


Eleanor it is a crazy roller coaster, scary time for us. For right now he is intent on getting my daughter through the courts and is respecting the restraining order. The fact that he wants the house shows me he plans on moving on with his life.
I am so glad he got a postponement because now her attorney has some time to prepare for the next court hearing. Thank you for the good thoughts, I am grateful.


anni bless you. Squish the slimeball is right. He is showing his true colors. I keep thinking pride goes before a fall. And this little victory for him should blow up his big fat head.

I am so sorry you went through such a horrible experience. I am glad that you got away from him and are now safe. I am so happy for you that you had such a good outcome. I hope it is all ego with him too.

The fact that he is respecting the restraining order shows me he wants to live and go on with his life.

I cannot wait for her attorney to pound him into the dust. I want him to go away and never have anything to do with her again. I am so glad he filed for divorce because it means he does not want anything more to do with my daughter.

I am trying to take care of myself.

Thank you all for your support. It means so much to me. It really keeps me going. You are all so encouraging and give me so much hope.

On the good side, my daughter got a call from the police department and it looks like they want to hire her as a dispatcher. She called me with the news this morning and that is the happiest I have heard from her since this whole ordeal started. She has hope now, something she did not have before. She will be working part time and she has been out of work for a couple of years.
I am so happy for her.

Thank you also for your tips and advice. I so appreciate it, it has been so useful to me and to my daughter. Hugs.

 

[nursenurse]

Oh I so hope your daughter lands the job, she needs the income and the boost for her self esteem.

It is so hard to take care of oneself in these kinds of times, isn't it? But so very important. Look after yourself well, and the hard times will be easier to cope with, as you know. That is one thing I have become good at, looking after me. Still fret and worry about things as usual, but I always feel better able to make good decisions when I have done good things for myself.

I hope your daughter's lawyer nails the creep. However, the fact that he is not harrassing her at the moment is a good sign. He still may cause some trouble, via the divorce, but I imagine he spent a night or two in jail when arrested, and I'll bet he does not want to go back there.

Go Gizmo! You rock!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

nursenurse thank you for saying it would be a self esteem builder. I had not thought of that. She has been trying so hard to get a job. We could use some miracles.

I do not know what her husband is capable of but it looks like he has alot invested in him being a good guy. He is staying away and I take it as a good sign too.

All of this is expensive for him. He has a job but not unlimited funds unless his parents are helping him out.

When this is all over I hope he relocates to another state.

Thank you so much for all your kind words and support. It keeps me going. I appreciate it so much. Hugs.

 

[The Albatross]

Wonderful news about the dispatcher job, I'm crossing everything (fingers, toes, legs and eyes) for her. Very glad you and your mister are there for your daughter and grandchildren Giz. I hope that justice will be served and that your daughter gets stellar representation.

 

[NIKI]

On the good side, my daughter got a call from the police department and it looks like they want to hire her as a dispatcher.

That is wonderful news! I would think that would be such an ego boost for your daughter!